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My 10 year daughter is staying up in her room and using MY computer and only comes down if i need her,i want to talk to her,to eat,and to help with the babies. Im on vacation with her and my husband and I can't yell at her. Im looking forward to your responses.
Do you really need to ask? Take the computer away. "Honey, we're on vacation, and spending time together as a family, not playing on the computer". No negotiation, stick it back in the suitcase. Then realize that just because you're on vacation, it doesn't mean a 10 yr old should have to help with babies. That's the job of the parents.
What other activities do you have for her to do? Maybe sitting around taking care of your babies isn't her idea of vacation? I'm not saying to let her sit there all day playing on the computer (I have a 10 year old myself!) but you have to provide the alternatives for her.
Do you really need to ask? Take the computer away. "Honey, we're on vacation,and spending time together as a family, not playing on the computer". No negotiation, stick it back in the suitcase. Then realize that just because you're on vacation, it doesn't mean a 10 yr old should have to help with babies. That's the job of the parents.
Great post with excellent suggestions.
Who is the adult in the family? You or the 10 year old child? You make the rules about when & how much computer time your child has.
Who is the adult in the family? You or the 10 year old child? Of course, that is also true for who needs to taking care of the babies. Unless they are your 10 year old daughter's babies (which I sincerely hope they are not) you, the adult, need to be caring for them just like you need to care for your 10 year old child..
The babies are my sons and new daughter-in-law not mine,also she brings her meals up in her room.
So why aren't your son & DIL caring for their babies?
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Originally Posted by Mattie
Then they are definitely NOT the responsibility of your 10 yr old. What plans have you made for her to enjoy this vacation?
Caring for your nieces/nephews are not the responsibility of a 10 year old aunt.
I agree with Mattie. You may want to spend some time with your grandchildren while on vacation but be sure to spend enough quality time with your own child, too.
The babies are my sons and new daughter-in-law not mine,also she brings her meals up in her room.
Why is she allowed to eat in her room? She seems to be an outsider in her own family - how much of that is her decision versus not having any enjoyable alternate activities with the family?
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