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Limit computer time. Only allow it after chores are done. Plan an outing like shopping or trip to a museum. Do a family movie day. Go out to a movie and lunch. Be a parent. There is no need to yell, but you certainly should be able to do that if you felt the need. Just take the computer away, and eat dinner at the table as a family.
I agree, this is the second thread I read today where the basic problem is the parents aren't being parents. I truly don't understand. Tell her no, tell her to get off the computer, tell her absolutely no she can't eat in her room, she can eat at the table with the rest of the family. Why would you have to yell???? I'm so confused.
Unfortunately I think this is too real. Get a parenting backbone.
Take the computer away, no food in the room, and hand her a book. Encourage her to play with the babies but do not think that at age 10 she should be taking care of these nieces or nephews. She's still a kid herself.
I can see encouraging her to be involved with the babies since she's the aunt. As well as being involved with the rest of the family. Pull the plug. Just pull the plug. um....because you need her help with... um... this game of charades... yeah, that's the ticket...
My 10 year daughter is staying up in her room and using MY computer and only comes down if i need her,i want to talk to her,to eat,and to help with the babies. Im on vacation with her and my husband and I can't yell at her. Im looking forward to your responses.
What?? This is YOUR daughter? And you don't know how to deal with her?
1)Change the password on the computer. Let her know that it is off limits. Period.
2) Tell her that she will be helping you with the other children, whenever you need help.
3) Mean what you say. Stick with it.
It sounds like you have created a beast of a daughter. It may be too late to fix it, but you better get started trying, for both of your sakes.
Do you really need to ask? Take the computer away. "Honey, we're on vacation, and spending time together as a family, not playing on the computer". No negotiation, stick it back in the suitcase. Then realize that just because you're on vacation, it doesn't mean a 10 yr old should have to help with babies. That's the job of the parents.
^^^^ this.
And who is the parent and who is the child? Do you even know what she is doing on the computer? For all you know she is talking to adult men. Girls not much older than her have gone missing or worse.
Before you end up on Dateline NBC start acting like a parent.
Why did you bring the computer on vacation anyway? OK, so you could check a work email or two? Then use it for just that and get it out of sight & mind. Most of us spend 40 paid hours a week chained to a computer for a paycheck, plenty of time for that later in life.
This little (very little) girl needs a Mommy to show her by example how to enjoy this world, go for walks, ice cream, sing to musicals, dance crazy. Cook fun stuff & eat it.
Are you at the snow? The beach? Usually vacation is an outdoors destination & the outdoors is not in the bedroom.
Enjoy your daughter, they grow up way too fast. Give her some fun memories!
I would begin with prayer. Round up the kids and husband, hold hands in a circle with the laptop in the middle of the circle and ask the lord for guidance.
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