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Originally Posted by dad2015
I was always under the impression that a child would bond me even further with my wife but lately I feel we've grown apart due to conflicting ideas of what good parenting consists of.
My wife is a strong believer in the theory of 'attachment parenting' she's read countless books on the subject and claims it's scientifically supported by studies.
While I admittedly haven't read any of the books she's read I feel like some of the aspects of it, can't possibly work the same for every child.
My wife cannot bring herself to hearing our 2 yr old daughter cry for any reason.
She's been co-sleeping with us in our bed since she was 3 months and although my wife tries to put her to sleep on her own crib now, 4 out of 7 nights she still ends up sleeping with us. This aspect has, I feel, taken a toll in our sexual lives and our quality of sleep.
I'm by no means a flawless father myself, so I won't pretend that all our problems are because of her parenting style. I just feel our constant arguments over our child's upbringing is taking a heavy toll on our relationship.
This might sound selfish but I also feel somewhat left out by the mother-child bonding. Our child isn't even as interested in me as she's in her mother.
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I was that mom. My husband could have written your post. I wish I could tell you what to do but I don't know. I do know that I was unaware just how left out my husband felt. He drifted further away from me and our family until he broke it entirely.
You could probably pick up a couple of those books and see what they say about remaining bonded to your spouse and how to keep that sex life going. It is very likely your wife just doesn't care much about sex right now. Maybe you could find some ways to help her feel that again.
I don't think attachment parenting was the cause, but my youngest had severe anxiety and couldn't fall sleep by herself for years.