My Mom Never Wanted to Be a Mom, And I Knew It.... (parents, children)
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I try to see it as a blessing that Mother’s Day is the one day a year where having a parent who doesn’t want to be a parent really pays off. I won’t be sending my mother any Mother’s Day cards or flowers; I won’t be expressing my love or gratitude for her giving me life in any of those standard ways at this time. Read more.
Well, that is really sad. Not everyone is meant or wants to be a parent and that's okay, but if you choose to bring a child into the world and raise it, you have to put your whole self into it, even if you don't want to. Children are innocent and do not choose their parents, so they shouldn't be punished for your decision. It's a shame stuff like this happens too often.
I read this article earlier today online and found it to be extremely sad. I have two little ones and they are my world. I cannot get enough of them. I cannot fathom to not say kind and loving words to them. They sat on lap last night and we were looking at old uploaded pictures of them on the computer from when they were ages 2 and 4, that was almost 5 years ago. Looking back at those pictures I knew that I had the whole world in the palm of my hand, I was a stay-at-home mom to these kids, it was such a unique time, they were so stinking cute in those pictures! I'm not saying I am perfect because I am loving with my kids, but once again cannot fathom being cold to them and not interested in their lives.
I'm not sure why a rant about a problem specific to the writer qualifies as an article suitable for general consumption these days. What does this article really say about mothers or even parenting?
I'm not sure why a rant about a problem specific to the writer qualifies as an article suitable for general consumption these days. What does this article really say about mothers or even parenting?
I don't know but to me it says I am not alone. Others out there live with this. I mean it made me cry, a lot, but in a weird way it's comforting.
But FWIW I'm not a fan of Mother's Day or Father's Day (not yet a mother, though). I don't like the idea of a made up holiday in which we are forced to appreciate our parents. We are expected to buy them gifts or take them out and give them mass-produced cards with sentimental but un-personal messages in them that thousands or even millions of others have bought for their own parents, as well - meaning multiple parents across the country have received the same "you are special, I love you" Hallmark card. I think we should appreciate our parents and families every day or at least many days a year and there shouldn't be a designated, forced day for it. This is why I dislike Mother's Day and Father's Day. I guess they're good "holidays" for the forgetful or selfish children who may or may not live far away from their parents and don't interact with them much (which is still a choice - a phone call or email or text is not that hard) but still - it should be something we should think of on our own. We shouldn't need a designated day to stop and think and say, "hey - thanks mom (or dad) for being you. Here's a card (or insert any other MD of FD gift)." Just my opinion, I hope people can understand what I mean.
This article reminds me of my own mother. When I was a child my mom took care of my basic needs but she was never very loving. I can't remember ever getting a hug or a kiss from her.
She's never been interested in my life. She didn't check my report cards or attend any of my school events. I was in chorus and she never went to any of my concerts. She even left my college graduation before I accepted my diploma because she was bored and It was taking to long (her words.)
I never want my own children to feel unloved so I make sure that they get lots of love and attention. My mom has zero interest in my children and it makes me sad but that's her loss.
My mom is not a bad person, she just doesn't have the mothering gene. I've learned to accept that she is who she is but it still hurts. I'll save the rest for my therapist.
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