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It's not something we ever did in my family. As a kid, I thought it was weird when my friends' parents kissed them on the lips, and to be honest, I still kind of do. I certainly never kissed my own children on the mouth. But it might be taking it a bit too far to say it's "sexual." When I've seen parents and kids doing this, it is a pretty quick peck.
Its all context. Age plays a role, so does race and heritage. I kissed both my kids on the lips until 6 or so...then both moved to a cheek kiss...me following their example.
I thought it was weird until I had my own kid and then it just came naturally to me. I expect she'll outgrow it in a few years (she's 4 now) although I know that some families continue lip-kisses even as the kids become adults. I think culture and what your own family did plays a huge part in whether it feels right for you or not. But its not sexual unless you make it so, in which case something is very wrong.
My mother always kissed us kids on the forehead. She still does. I don't ever recall her kissing me on the lips or seeing her kiss my brother or sister on the lips.
Its all context. Age plays a role, so does race and heritage. I kissed both my kids on the lips until 6 or so...then both moved to a cheek kiss...me following their example.
Us, too, although I could probably say instead that my kids kissed me on the lips instead of me kissing them on the lips. Kids' mouths can be pretty gross and smelly.
Is it too sexual? probably not. It just doesn't seem necessary. IMHO a big hug goes a lot farther towards making another person feel good.
My parents were not affectionate at all, so I was free to create my own family culture. We are big on fierce hugs.
My FIL used to kiss our kid's lips when they were babies. I just cringed. WE didn't even kiss them on the lips and still don't. When my 65 year old brother aims for my lips when we say goodbye, I turn my head. It's like, YUCK, don't kiss me on my lips. That's for my husband to do, thanks.
IMO, kissing on the lips is for romance, not for parents, other children, brothers, uncles, aunts, grandparent etc. IMO, I just find it weird and wonder why non-couples/romatic couples, kiss on the lips.
I'm 45 years old and still plant a kiss on momma's lips, it's not like we are going about it passionately with a tongue thrown in for good measure!!!
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