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The school hosts a lunch for preK and K every year. The students sing a few songs and then have pizza with their families. It's not a moms club. It's not for moms who don't work (I work full time).
While k was in the shower, the two of them disagreed about something. Our son drew a picture and wrote "daddy I hate you". Obviously he doesn't hate his dad. And I've heard the I don't like you comments all the time. He's five. I tell him it's okay if he upset, I still love him. My husband can be moody and hold a grudge. Yes, he's being immature. All I'm asking if for a safe response for my kid that isn't a lie.
The truth isn't a lie and if you say anything "safe" it will be a lie.
I know he's being an ass. His dad is dying, so I'm trying to be tolerant of his range of emotions right now. It's not right to take it out on his family, but sometimes people act like *******s during stressful times.
My son thinks he will be there. And I know he will ask when he sees me alone. The video is a great diversion. I think that will satisfy the little guy.
In which case "daddy is having a bad day" is entirely appropriate.
A 5-year-old doesn't need to be drawn into the psychology of a self-centered, immature parent.
This problem is between the adults.
It appears the "adults" don't have a clue and think telling a lie or a half truth is just fine.
They also think it is appropriate to have a stand off with a year, how's that for "not" being drawn into the psychology of the situation? Do you really think the father's behavior is going unnoticed by this child?
It appears the "adults" don't have a clue and think telling a lie or a half truth is just fine.
They also think it is appropriate to have a stand off with a year, how's that for "not" being drawn into the psychology of the situation? Do you really think the father's behavior is going unnoticed by this child?
No, that's why I said the teen years will be hell. It's not going to be resolved today by saying, "Honey, you hurt Daddy's feelings when you said that, so now he's staying home because he's a baby but look, Momma's here because mommy loves you!!"
This is a bad dynamic that needs professional help.
Mountsins out of molehills. Tell him to man up and embrace fatherhood, pronto. If he doesn't he'll be the real loser in the future -- much more than the child.
I know he's being an ass. His dad is dying, so I'm trying to be tolerant of his range of emotions right now. It's not right to take it out on his family, but sometimes people act like *******s during stressful times.
My son thinks he will be there. And I know he will ask when he sees me alone. The video is a great diversion. I think that will satisfy the little guy.
Ahhhhh, that completely explains it. His dad is dying, he is overwhelmed with his feelings for his own dad, and when his son says something innocent like "I hate you dad!" it takes on an entirely new and unbearable meaning. He is feeling enormous pain, but he turns the pain into anger to make it easier to handle.
Does your son know that grandpa is sick? That's going to be the harder one to talk to. You might want to get a little kid book about understanding death pronto.
My husband has decided to skip our son's parent lunch today. What do I tell our son when he asks why daddy isn't there? He is only five, so I don't want him to feel abandoned or unloved. What's the best route?
Why would you even consider bad-mouthing your husband?
He's 5. Just tell him Daddy had to work. Most parents have to work and can't make it to these things; it's not as if it's a pageant after school or something.
The boys know he is sick and have seen him since he's been ill. (we also have a seven year old). The kids know he won't get better, but I'm not sure have much they understand death. No one close to them has passed yet.
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