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I hate that phrase. Imo, the only way you spoil a baby is if you leave them to sit there unattended, like food. If she needs some sort of ratification from an expert, tell her to read the Dr. Sears set of books. He is the father of 8 children, a christian, a renowned pediatrician with an excellent education & he will help her to feel better about her decisions to respond to her baby. Alot of my friends liked his books & from what I can tell his advice is similar to how my family did things...
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What do you think about her statement, "You can spoil a baby?" My dd has a 6 wk old and she's struggling with this.
Thanks. I'll tell her to see what he says about her specific struggle. She responds to the baby's cries for food, attention, the basics. But her mil tells her to not let her baby "be in charge" of her. For example, the baby cries when you sit down instead of standing...
What do you think about her statement, "You can spoil a baby?" My dd has a 6 wk old and she's struggling with this.
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Originally Posted by texastea
Thanks. I'll tell her to see what he says about her specific struggle. She responds to the baby's cries for food, attention, the basics. But her mil tells her to not let her baby "be in charge" of her. For example, the baby cries when you sit down instead of standing...
PHOOEY!!! I held my daughter as much as I wanted, whenever I wanted, and heaven helped my grandmother when she told me I better knock it off or she would be spoiled. LOL. IMO-You go through 9 months of caring for this baby before it's even born, possibly moderate to severe morning sickness, back pain, weight gain, swollen ankles, etc. all to be presented with this adorable little bundle that somebody is going to tell you to put down at 6 weeks old because you will teach the child that s/he can get you to pick her/him up whenever s/he wants to be held? Just goes against all logic to me. That same someone who, most likely, when she walks in your home rushes to pick up the "little manipulator". LOL. I look at it like, I just spent however many hours delivering this baby, I earned the right to hold her whenever I want to and if she is "spoiled" that is nobody's problem but my own.
Funny how most of the time the people who tell new moms they will spoil the baby by too much holding are the same people who lament the fact that their babies are grown up and they wish they held them more.
I did tell my husband that he was ruining the good thing I had going when he would stand with the baby though. While I was home with her, I would get her to settle down while sitting, and he would always jump up to soothe her. LOL.
Tell your daughter to ignore her MIL and hold her baby as much as she wants to. Even if it's for no other reason than she just wants to hold her!! I said it's ok. LOL.
You scored 14 points.
Chances are good that you are not a high-risk parent in terms of overindulging your child
The Gestapo Mom, and proud of it!
14 Also, thats with my two boys.
If i were to take the test for my girl, i think the score will be a lot higher. I guess the "Daddies girl" myth stands true in my case
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