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I was wondering. I'm finding that, as a parent, my marriage with my spouse is suffering a bit. It's hard with the amount of time that kids take up, etc.
Yes. It is common and to be expected. Everyone who stays married and is happy learns to make adjustments in different parts of their lives after the kids come. You can't raise children on auto-pilot.
Ha ha ha! Saying it is harder would be an understatement. Keeping a relationship strong, healthy, and satisfying is hard in itself and takes a heck of a lot of work. Add kids into the mix and you multiply that exponentially.
I believe studies have shown that marriages are the least satisfying during the time when parents are raising their kids.
I was wondering. I'm finding that, as a parent, my marriage with my spouse is suffering a bit. It's hard with the amount of time that kids take up, etc.
I was wondering. I'm finding that, as a parent, my marriage with my spouse is suffering a bit. It's hard with the amount of time that kids take up, etc.
We have three. We waited till our eldest was 6 before considering another child because he was difficult. My wife is a professional educator and we didn't want our eldest to be alone in the world without a sibling. So we thought we could handle one more. We ended up having twins with medical issues.
The stresses to the marriage were obvious.... two ships passing in the night over the past 3 or so years. We are still together working things out... trying to enjoy the best times as a family while trying not to let the hard times pull us apart.
It would have been nice to have extended family to help us out.... but unfortunately, we are on our own.
There is so much that causes your marriage to be interrupted, not just time. We argue about doing chores, major parenting decisions, curfew, should I let her stay out late? etc. etc. etc.
Yes. Having a child requires changes in prioritizing, time allotment, and it changes how you relate to one another. Marriage, like life, is all about adjusting as necessary, and having a child requires a lot of adjustment. Making time together (just you and your spouse) is, I've heard, essential for maintaining a strong relationship. My husband and I have three kids (now teens), and we've always lived far from extended family and didn't use babysitters, so we didn't get much time with just the two of us until recently. I think it would have been better to have used a babysitter occasionally to get away and enjoy each other's company.
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