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Using a belt on a child isnt being abusive.... it is in my books... jeez what are you people thinking.. hitting a child with any object just isnt on.. all you create is hatred, lack of respect and a child who thinks hitting is ok and so it goes..
Really... both of my last two exes (they are brothers) got whacked by their mother when they got out of line. Ask any Latino(a) about getting spanked with chancletas and they will all start nodding in the affirmative, because it happened to them too.
Their mom passed away in 2011, and it is an understatement to say they miss her.
This really got me thinking. You said the 3-year-old pinches only when she's mad at her older brothers. Could this be her way of self-defense? Are they teasing her, taking her toys, or provoking her physically? (Poking, tickling, whatever) She has the right to defend herself. I don't think kids should be told they're not allowed to use the one method they have to defend themselves against older siblings bullying them. Instead, parents should get to the bottom of the situation, and punish the bullies.
What happens with little girls who have older brothers (or sometimes--younger brothers) who are bullies, is that they defend themselves any way they can. This might be with pinching, depending on age, or scratching. In my limited observation, typically they're told that type of thing isn't allowed, but no one asks what provoked it, and tells the boys that bullying isn't allowed. This sends all the wrong messages to both sides, and can set girls up to tolerate abuse as young women. It also sets boys up to have a sense of entitlement, as well as impunity from being held accountable.
That's probably not the situation in your family, @cyberfx, but I thought I'd mention this, since we're on the topic.
I was the youngest of five children with very absent parents. When I was seven I cut my fingernails to a sharp point. When they thought it would be fun to strip me naked and throw me out in the front yard, they got a nasty surprise.
what is.... maybe too much violence caused this childs behaviour in the first place..
I would not have dared biting another kid out of fear from punishment from my parents.
This child clearly is already ruling her house because she does what she wants and there are no consequences.
I'll rather apply some VIOLENCE and give her a little slap on the mouth than spending $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ on counseling or having her growing up turning more and more into an entitled monster.
The only thing I've ever seen work to break a child of biting is for the parent to bite them back. ( obviously, not hard enough to leave a bruise). It usually works in one try.
My son, who was then two years old, picked up biting from other kids in his daycare. The first time he did it to me, I bit him back--and that was the end of that.
My son, who was then two years old, picked up biting from other kids in his daycare. The first time he did it to me, I bit him back--and that was the end of that.
Problem solved.
how violent!
hahhaha, good for you! Some things are just .. simple.
My son, who was then two years old, picked up biting from other kids in his daycare. The first time he did it to me, I bit him back--and that was the end of that.
Problem solved.
Yep. Me too.
Now excuse me while I go report myself to child (this kid is now 23) services.
Really... both of my last two exes (they are brothers) got whacked by their mother when they got out of line. Ask any Latino(a) about getting spanked with chancletas and they will all start nodding in the affirmative, because it happened to them too.
Their mom passed away in 2011, and it is an understatement to say they miss her.
I have not read all the comments so maybe this has already been said.
We had a set of triplet girls and the first born started biting the other two around 2 1/2 years of age. We never saw it happen. One day they were in their room for a nap and we heard screaming. We opened the door and the oldest was on the floor and the other 2 were on her biting her legs. We closed the door and let the 2 continue. Oldest never bit anyone again.
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