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I think people who want one sex or the other have many preconceived notions. That's a terrible burden to place on an unborn child. As someone else mentioned, you could have a girl who does "boy" things or vice versa. Anyway, each human brings his/her own unique set of joys and challenges.
I have three sons. The first terrified me as I come from a family of all girls. I had visions of mud and dirt and horrible little boy behavior. None of that came to fruition. My sons are some of the coolest humans walking this planet.
I would absolutely not influence gender.
I just have to say spending time with nieces is definitely not a legit test run to becoming a parent.
I wanted sons and I got sons. Both are very different from each other. The only preconceived notion I had about boys were....they weren't girls. And I was right.
My husband wanted boys as a lot of men do, but we were blessed with two daughters and no sons. Let me tell you, those girls have my husband wrapped around their finger!! He could careless that we never had a son! He goes to their gymnastics classes and has even played dolls with them! They are daddy's girls and he couldn't be prouder!
I regret though speaking of that desire in front of my two adorable sons. My youngest was set to be girl...All doc's were sure..Then out came a boy!
There went all the dresses from the shower,and replaced with premie clothes. My youngest (now adult) still feels pangs over this ...Since he thinks I was disappointed in his gender. I wasn't. I loved him dearly. It was my 'desire' that was skewed. Not him.
Eh, people can be married to one another, and not want kids. Nothing more to it than that. Kids do in fact cause a loss of freedom (let's not kid ourselves here). Plenty of people decide not to have them for that reason (and there's nothing wrong with that).
To each its own, no one is obligated, in fact some couples cant conceive, and wont adopt. It is ok with me as well, aint judging no one.
As to a loss of freedom, I know from experience. Yes, I don't go out clubbing or bar hopping anymore, or hanging out with the boys, but I was getting tired of doing that anyways. Yes, when the kids are school aged, we cant just take a vacation or getaway any time we want. but its a small sacrifice to pay, to start a family.
compromise is not necessarily a loss of freedom. people face compromises everyday, such as with your partner, or employer. not much of a difference becoming a parent.
Did any of you take any steps to try to influence the baby's gender? If so, did it work?
I'm wondering if all those suggestions on the internet (Shettles method, acidic/basic, eat certain foods, etc.) are pretty much baseless.
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Originally Posted by kapikap
Old wives tales,
-when the women dominates the conception, like her being on top, that is when a girl would be most likely,
-when the man dominates, like from the back or on top, a boy will be conceived,
I have discussed this topic with a few parents, and the old wives tale holds true up to 75 o/o of the time.
Kapikap's concept didn't hold true for me. I didn't take steps to influence the gender, but when I later read about the Chinese calendar and the timing of sex versus ovulation, I got the opposite gender both those things said I should have all three times.
I knew someone who had 6 (yes, 6) girls who really wanted a boy. She kept trying all the best methods she read about, and she had a 7th baby-- another girl. I have another friend who wanted a girl more than anything. 5 boys later, she gave up. She had been trying to influence the gender every single time.
I'm sure some people have been successful, but unless you're doing some sperm washing, it's seriously doubtful you're influencing the baby's gender. It's still chance.
I knew someone who had 6 (yes, 6) girls who really wanted a boy. She kept trying all the best methods she read about, and she had a 7th baby-- another girl. I have another friend who wanted a girl more than anything. 5 boys later, she gave up. She had been trying to influence the gender every single time.
Wow! 6 girls? 5 boys?
Amazing how people only get one gender no matter how hard they try.
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I'm a guy and wasn't bothered about the gender of our first baby. Then after having a girl, I really wanted the 2nd to be a girl also. And I got my wish. And it gets even better. My older daughter had twins a couple of years ago, both girls, and I just adore them. Can't wait for them to arrive here for Thanksgiving in an hour or so.
My ex definitely was hoping for the color pink-- I chose not to find out the gender during the ultrasound because I wanted to do it the old fashioned way and have the anticipation and excitement of wondering if our baby would be a boy or a girl. At her birth when the doctor said it's a girl, he was really, really happy and gloated that "I knew it, it was obvious" lol.
On a side note I had had a dream about five months before she was born one night that the baby would be a girl. When I woke up from that vivid dream I just knew. But I didn't tell him about my dream, knowing he would say it was just a dream.
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