Do you think it's ok to ask my mother not to call me pet names anymore? (teenage, divorced)
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I am now 21 years old and in college, and sometimes my mother calls me by my first name or a mature nickname, but most other times she calls me "boyzee" (sounds exactly how it's spelled). I appreciate the sentiment, but I really don't like being called that as it makes me feel like a little kid. Even my dad laughs when she calls me that. It's one thing to call me "honey" or "sweetie," because those are more mature pet names, but "boyzee" really doesn't sound good for someone my age. I haven't asked her to stop saying "boyzee" because I know she likes it and I'm afraid she will be devastated if she can't call me that anymore. Parents, do you think you would be upset if you called your adult child a nickname like this and they asked you not to? I certainly don't want to hurt her feelings but I want to feel like an adult, and she does treat me like an adult besides that name.
My dad used to have a name like that he used to call me. I went through a phase during my teenage years where I hated it. As I matured, I realized that it wasn't something to be embarrassed by, but rather was something to treasure. It made me special. He may have called other people "honey" or "sweetie" but this was all mine. It sort of signified our relationship as being at a different level than any other. It meant we had a closeness that was unique to us.
Depending on what your relationship is like with your mom, I think you may feel differently about it as you get older.
And I'm going to sound like a real old fuddy-duddy now (I'm 46), but I lost my dad suddenly 6 years ago. And I look back on that nickname, and how I got it fondly. I'd give anything to hear him call me that again.
I am now 21 years old and in college, and sometimes my mother calls me by my first name or a mature nickname, but most other times she calls me "boyzee" (sounds exactly how it's spelled). I appreciate the sentiment, but I really don't like being called that as it makes me feel like a little kid. Even my dad laughs when she calls me that. It's one thing to call me "honey" or "sweetie," because those are more mature pet names, but "boyzee" really doesn't sound good for someone my age. I haven't asked her to stop saying "boyzee" because I know she likes it and I'm afraid she will be devastated if she can't call me that anymore. Parents, do you think you would be upset if you called your adult child a nickname like this and they asked you not to? I certainly don't want to hurt her feelings but I want to feel like an adult, and she does treat me like an adult besides that name.
I suspect that this more about you trying to leave your childhood behind, separate more from your parents (especially your mom) and become a full fledged adult.
At 21 you are literally just starting out in your adult life, and often there is a certain pressure to start being "grown up".
If you really want to act like an adult, then recognize that it's not easy for your mother to see her little boy grow up, and realize that "boyzee" is a term of affection for the little boy she still holds close to her heart. It doesn't mean that she doesn't see that you are growing up and maturing. It just means that you will always be her son. And that is OK.
Besides an occasional private moment, she should stick with more grown up names. I dropped the baby nick names when my kids were tweens...except for in absolute private when we were having a moment.
My poor cousin is in her 40s and still called Boob by almost everyone- publicly and on social media. I would hate it.
I didn't even get the cutsie-young nickname my family calls me until I was in college. My mom started calling me by it to annoy me, which it didn't, and it stuck. Now all of my family calls me by that name nearly 100% of the time.
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