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If you give a gift such as concert tickets, to a couple, are you also expected to pay for their babysitter so they can attend the concert? This situation recently came up with some younger friends and I am curious about what other people think.
A college student that I know splurged to give her older brother and his wife (who both have full time jobs) two tickets to a concert that he wanted to attended. Normally she would give a small gift, or a home made gift, to her brother for his birthday but spent at least four times what she would normally spent on his gift to buy two concert tickets. And, while he was (mostly) appreciative of the gift, he informed her that "it was not polite to buy tickets for a night out unless you also include enough money to pay for a babysitter."
Frankly, I had never heard of an etiquette rule like that. So, was she in the wrong or was he just making that up or is this something new or what?
Thank you for any input.
Oops, maybe this should be in Non-romantic relationships instead, but I was wondering what people who needed to pay for baby sitters (parents) thought about this issue.
Hopefully he was kidding, but if not - she should tell him that's its sad to hear he wont be using her gift and he should give her the tickets back so that she and a friend can go instead. She can always redo something homemade just like last year for his birthday.
I get the feeling some of you would tell a bald guy to be happy he got a comb for Christmas. Not that it excuses an ungracious reply, but the gifter should put some thought into a gift that matters.
I get the feeling some of you would tell a bald guy to be happy he got a comb for Christmas. Not that it excuses an ungracious reply, but the gifter should put some thought into a gift that matters.
...the gift giver got exactly the gift that the wife told her to get.
If you give a gift such as concert tickets, to a couple, are you also expected to pay for their babysitter so they can attend the concert? This situation recently came up with some younger friends and I am curious about what other people think.
A college student that I know splurged to give her older brother and his wife (who both have full time jobs) two tickets to a concert that he wanted to attended. Normally she would give a small gift, or a home made gift, to her brother for his birthday but spent at least four times what she would normally spent on his gift to buy two concert tickets. And, while he was (mostly) appreciative of the gift, he informed her that "it was not polite to buy tickets for a night out unless you also include enough money to pay for a babysitter."
Frankly, I had never heard of an etiquette rule like that. So, was she in the wrong or was he just making that up or is this something new or what?
Thank you for any input.
Oops, maybe this should be in Non-romantic relationships instead, but I was wondering what people who needed to pay for baby sitters (parents) thought about this issue.
Shocking. This says a lot about the brother's opinion of the younger sibling, IMO. No more nice gifts for him! Completely oblivious to a college student's budget, not to mention--completely unappreciative of a nice gift. The N-word comes to mind: narcissist.
I get the feeling some of you would tell a bald guy to be happy he got a comb for Christmas. Not that it excuses an ungracious reply, but the gifter should put some thought into a gift that matters.
Put some thought into a gift that matters? Two concert tickets aren't a thoughtful gift? What, is the gift-giver also supposed to pay for the gas to drive to the concert and back, as well as a babysitter? WTH?!
Hopefully he was kidding, but if not - she should tell him that's its sad to hear he wont be using her gift and he should give her the tickets back so that she and a friend can go instead. She can always redo something homemade just like last year for his birthday.
She could give him a plate of home-backed cookies. Or some fruitcake. The end.
Put some thought into a gift that matters? Two concert tickets aren't a thoughtful gift? What, is the gift-giver also supposed to pay for the gas to drive to the concert and back, as well as a babysitter? WTH?!
If he can't use it, it isn't much of a gift, so comb for a bald guy?
Do you actually know many people who give the gift of a one time event without knowing if the giftee will have the opportunity to use it? I don't.
And, while he was (mostly) appreciative of the gift, he informed her that "it was not polite to buy tickets for a night out unless you also include enough money to pay for a babysitter."
Why stop there. Include money for the babysitter's trust fund to attend any college she wants too. And of course, buy a new car for the couple to attend the concert in.
Some people are so amazingly ungrateful for kind gestures. If someone made that remark about a gift, I would withdrawal the gift and give it to someone else who would appreciate it.
It really is not a big deal, but it came up in conversation recently and I wanted to get other opinions on it. I think that it was probably meant as a joke but the sister really thought (both then and now) that he meant it seriously.
Someone goes out of their to do something nice and pays for it, that's a really stupid remark to make. Not funny and not kind at all. Some people simply don't know how to behave and it isn't your job to raise them. Withdraw the gift.
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