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He gets good grades, he is involved with some clubs @ school so my husband doesn't really do anything about the gaming b/c he doesn't feel like it is interfering in my stepson's life … but I feel like @ a certain point, don't they become too old to be gaming all the time?
The thing I do not like, is that while yes, he does take involvement in the school and has friends, any time he is home he is gaming. If we want to do something as a family, he will either not come or he will come and just play on his handheld device/phone the entire time.
My husband's family is not here, so all holidays are spent with mine. He will come to the holiday and then be antisocial and sit in a corner playing his games. I think that @ 16, he could be sociable with the adults ... but he isn't my son so I stay out of it …
I mean, I just have visions of him going to college & STILL gaming. Is 16 beyond the point of growing out of it?
My kids had several different gaming systems, all of which are currently gathering dust in our basement. So, I'd say it happened for us when college life took over, but they were never hard-core players to begin with. And, I'm thankful.
Ironically, I just had both of my boys, 37 and 29, sitting in the 29's Tesla playing video games on that huge display. While their mother, 61 and 29's wife, 30, were peeking through the window.
Twas hilarious.
The short answer is, YES, he will STILL be gaming in college.
If he doesn't get married, he will STILL be gaming in his 30s +.
If he does get married, his wife will probably make him quit.
He will resent it.
Gaming is fun. Why would you want to make your STEP-son stop doing something that he enjoys ? He is getting good grades, he has friends and social relationships. Sounds like a good kid to me.
As I sit here and watch my 50 some odd year old husband playing Red Dead.....
I don't think it is an issue of growing out of it, it is an issue of setting limits on what is good for the family. If you feel he is not connecting with the family you may want to limit his use.
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I don't think games are grown out of. I think the problem is that he's been allowed to be rude about it.
Just this.
Most big budget games are aimed at adults or all ages, not children. These days it's like asking when someone would grow out of watching movies.
Substitute any other solitary activity - watching videos on his phone, texting, reading, writing, doing a rubik's cube - for the games, and his behavior around company and during family time would be equally rude. The issue isn't the games, it's using them to withdraw.
I know a lot of adults who have never grown out of playing video games.
I don't know gamers but I know habits and that was my guess. Maybe "when you can take that controller out of my cold dead hands."?
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