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What a ridiculous thread !
You are worried that your daughter was ranked #2?
Your daughter is a top achiever so that isn't that enough for you?
Count your blessings and move on.
She isn't a horse in a race.
What a ridiculous thread !
You are worried that your daughter was ranked #2?
Your daughter is a top achiever so that isn't that enough for you?
Count your blessings and move on.
She isn't a horse in a race.
No, it's not a horse race but...
Daughter is a senior in High School. After her junior year, emails were sent out, with rank and she was ranked #2.
This year, because of Covid, and other things, ranking is being stopped and yesterdays email said
that Valedictorian and Salutorian based on Junior Years final ranking - Hers was 2.
She sent msg to her guidance counselour to confirm, and the email came back said 'That email last year was wrong. You should have gotten an email the following day. You are not #2'.
In other words it was only because the daughter followed up that she learned there was a mistake.
Now, it's likely the school did send a follow up email and it might well have ended up in the daughters junk folder. In which case the school should be able to resend it.
But if they can't someone should be held accountable. Saying an explanation was sent when it wasn't is unacceptable.
You probably learn as much from failure and disappointment as from success. Being the top student in high school won't make you the top student in college. Being the top student in college won't make you the top employee. Being the top employee won't make you a great spouse or parent. Move on.
When she applies for a job no one will care about her college record either past the fact that she has a diploma.
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Originally Posted by Maddie104
This stinks and I can imagine how disappointed your daughter must be and you for her.
The only way I would try to frame it is it is a high school honor but it is a big world out there and her time for recognition may come later in college. WHen she graduates college and applies for a job, no one will care about her high school record.
So, just curious, what WAS her actual class rank? 3? 17? 240?
Meanwhile, it's college application season. I would assume that her focus should be on applications, if she still has any to go in for regular decision deadlines. Is there anything that she would have gotten, had she been 2nd, like a full ride to the local state U?
I'd focus on the future, which means college applications. Her GPA and her class rank are what they are - nothing she can do to change that now.
Her GPA and her class rank are what they are - nothing she can do to change that now.
That was my thought.
If her grades didn't change, all that might have changed was her relative position to other high-ranking students. So if she had an amazing GPA the mere fact that she didn't get one of those honorific titles should really not impact her future at all.
Was she always in, say, the top 10 or so? Or did she go from #29 to #2 unexpectedly?
I can understand being disappointed to a degree and for a short while but not much more than that.
But if they can't someone should be held accountable. Saying an explanation was sent when it wasn't is unacceptable.
Accountable, sure, but to what end other than an apology? Her grades presumably didn't change. Was her class ranking linked to some important thing in real life other than an honorific that, sadly, means even less this year? Did she somehow drop from #2 to #39?
Now if an improperly (by the school) calculated GPA was the reason for the rank drop, yeah a much bigger problem.
Accountable, sure, but to what end other than an apology? Her grades presumably didn't change. Was her class ranking linked to some important thing in real life other than an honorific that, sadly, means even less this year? Did she somehow drop from #2 to #39?
Now if an improperly (by the school) calculated GPA was the reason for the rank drop, yeah a much bigger problem.
I don't see a problem with politely asking the school or department to resend the email in question.
If an explanation letter in fact wasn't sent last year... I would ask why then did the guidance counselor say it was?
You probably learn as much from failure and disappointment as from success. Being the top student in high school won't make you the top student in college. Being the top student in college won't make you the top employee. Being the top employee won't make you a great spouse or parent. Move on.
It is indeed a lesson but...it is also a lesson that in life you need to follow up and verify things for yourself sometimes. The whole email thing can be easily checked out and it should be, at a minimum. THEN she can move on if need be.
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