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It'd make more sense to get him into a credit recovery summer school program and make getting privileges back contingent on finishing classes.
This ^^^.
Call the school and find out what summer courses are offered and get him enrolled. Probably 2 courses would be the limit as they will be a shortened time frame.
Does your son have learning disabilities that cause problems with online learning? Does he have an IEP? What were the teachers’ feedback on how he failed?
You did not HAVE to ground your son. You decided to ground him.
I agree with the trend above... total grounding for the summer will not give you what you need for your son. He will not be motivated to do better and will make your life miserable.
An alternative idea would be to have him earn his privileges back. Get him a tutor. Make him take summer school classes or online classes. When he proves that he is improving then slowly loosen his grounding. Motivate him to improve.
No door???!! Issues of control much? If he has no computer, TV, or phone, what possible purpose does removing the door serve, other than complete humiliation? Don't you think having to repeat Junior year at 17 is punishment enough?
Removing all those things won't change what happened. I'm also not so sure summer school is a good idea either. It won't be enough to prevent him having to repeat, and immediately having more school for a kid who clearly already doesn't like/isn't engaged in school is maybe not the answer.
Have you talked to him about what happened and what does he say? Was remote learning involved? Is it lack of effort or is there a learning issue involved perhaps? What were his grades like before the pandemic? What does he want to do after he finishes school? Maybe he's better off leaving school now to work and getting his GED over time, there's plenty of work around at the moment. The reality of working life might sharpen his focus somewhat, or maybe he'll like it. School as an institution is not for everyone and it's certainly not the only way to learn.
Maybe he's also subconsciously scared to grow up, and I mean that seriously and without judgement. These last 18 months have been really hard for all of us, imagine how anxiety-inducing it must be for those approaching adulthood, it's a pretty volatile and unpredictable world they are emerging into. Work on your relationship with him, it's really the only way to influence him. Help him envision how he wants his life to be after high school and then help him figure out the path to make that happen.
Normally, I'm down with punishment fbut this year has been extraordinary for our teens. My oldest never took to online learning and lost all motivation. Punitive measures failed to accomplish anything, neither did the arguments, etc. Just led to resentment, frustration on all sides...she told us she just "gave up." Ultimately, she failed every class during the second semester. Her sleeping patterns changed and she was miserable. Yes, she was slacking.....but in all honesty, it was because she had ZERO motivation...some kids need to be in-person and she's one of them. Couldn't do that because we were unvaxxed and I am high risk.
She's now doing credit recovery in summer school (in person) and all of a sudden she's perked up, completing her coursework and is overall a much happier person. Less quarrelsome too. She fully understands that she'll be carrying a heavier load when she goes into tenth grade.
My aim is to get her back on track. Returning to school was the beginning and now, so far, so good, we're doing great. Good luck.
My son is seventeen and will be repeating his junior year of school. He has received all Fs and he is grounded for the entire summer. This means:
- No TV
- No Computer
- No Video Games
- No Desserts
- No door
- No iPhone
- He will be allowed to come with us on our beach vacation, but he must stay inside the hotel room for the entirety of the trip with no access to the TV. We have arranged a babysitter with the hotel.
I know this year has been very hard for students due to the pandemic, but that is NO EXCUSE for my son to slack off and fail all of his classes.
Did you help your son with his studies? If not, why not?
Maybe he's better off leaving school now to work and getting his GED over time, there's plenty of work around at the moment.
There are the occasional gifted slackers, but typically, kids who can't pass their regular classes also can't pass the GED. The GED is more challenging than most people think it is. Meanwhile, teachers in classes required for graduation tend to be reluctant to fail kids...in most high schools you can eke out at least a barely passing grade in these classes just by demonstrating that you're not in a persistent vegetative state.
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