If your child had no friends, how would that make you feel? (babies, toys)
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Let's say your child had no friends. He or she is always by themselves, they spend a lot of time in their room watching TV, playing video games, or on their cell phone. They don't have anyone to go out or hangout with. How would you respond to that?
Would you criticize them? Would you try to help them?
How old is the child? Who are they on their cell phone with? A friend?
Let's say your child had no friends. He or she is always by themselves, they spend a lot of time in their room watching TV, playing video games, or on their cell phone. They don't have anyone to go out or hangout with. How would you respond to that?
Would you criticize them? Would you try to help them?
Ask your child how they feel. Are they lonely and sad. Notice if there are any personality changes.
Also, I agree with another member about leaving all devices and TV in the family room and not available in their bedroom.
Let them know that you want to spend more time with them and encourage family movie time or board games, a country drive, a day in the park.
Sorry, let me rephrase that. Yes, I meant from the perspective of a parent whose child had no friends.
Well you've had plenty of similar replies from actual parents. They would have been concerned and intervened when it was clear the child was isolating. Parents who don't are neglectful.
Let's say your child had no friends. He or she is always by themselves, they spend a lot of time in their room watching TV, playing video games, or on their cell phone. They don't have anyone to go out or hangout with. How would you respond to that?
Would you criticize them? Would you try to help them?
I know that this might sound controversial. Maybe the reason that the child is like this is based on the parents. I had no friends growing up and still have issues trying to make friends as an adult. My parents were narcissists. I wasn’t allowed to go outside, wasn’t allowed to participate in sports. I was only allowed to do things that my mother forced me into it. Which means she made a “choice” for me and I had to do it. But then she told everyone that was something I wanted to do. But she didn’t “think” it was a good idea. I was the scapegoat child and all the family’s blame fell on me. So I was reprimanded for doing absolutely nothing. I found solace in my own company. Since it was the only place that I found safe. So growing up my only friends were the tv, video games, and books.
It may not necessarily always be the child. Why they are by themselves. There maybe other factors at play and they are responding accordingly.
Yes also on a child being harassed by their parents to get out of their room.
There is nothing healthy or good about a child/adult staying in their bedroom too much. A parent has the responsibility to raise their child to thrive in the real world, to be able to learn, work, communicate, form relationships, follow rules, learn respect, etc.
If a child is alone in their room all day, how is a parent monitoring their internet use? A parent has every right to set standards on if/when their children can use the computers, their phones, watch tv, etc and where they have those devices.
I wouldn't tolerate a child staying in their room as you describe in your first post. I wouldn't harass them, I'm the parent, I decide, I would simply take all the fun stuff out of the room.
And the child needs to respect their parents' rules.
How old is the child?
I dont know about you folks,but it seems the friends we make during childhood or before we join the adult world stay as friends forever.
It seems to be harder to make friends once you start working,how many new friends have you make these days?
Is your child handicapped?is he/she doing well in grades?
I have a niece who did well until everyone reaches puberty,then there is petty jealousy,gossips-what does your father do for a living>what kind of house do you live in>where did you buy your designer clothese? .
Children learn by example.
The way you deal with things is how they deal with things.
If your teaching is contrary to your lifestyle you sabotaged the effort.
Sometimes it takes taking up a sport with your children or social event they have an interest, that you do reguardless of their enthusiasm. My son and I got into fencing and found a healthy challenge we can perform on our own. I really mis those days. He does too .
Just as I took my son fishing often as I could he takes his son fishing as well.
Kids look to their parents for the example we demonstrate in socialization.
My parents were good examples , as a result both my brother and I socialize and have friends as well.
My son and I were the only ones in our family to participate in school team sports and did well.
I watched his ball games and encouraged him gently. Being a south paw I helped him learn how to be ambidextrous as I had to learn being a mechanic.
I was involved in SAR And amateur radio and many friends I had in town, and he developed his own friendships. Some influences were good some not so good, but he worked them out.
Our involvement in church was minimal. But we had good friends there too.
What you demonstrate before they are 5 years old makes a big difference. I learned that a little late, but the remaining years gave it my best.
Let's say your child had no friends. He or she is always by themselves, they spend a lot of time in their room watching TV, playing video games, or on their cell phone. They don't have anyone to go out or hangout with. How would you respond to that?
Would you criticize them? Would you try to help them?
Kill your TV.
No, really. Get rid of it altogether.
Next? Get the kid a flip-phone. That'll kill any desire to try to watch garbage on it.
Let's say your child had no friends. He or she is always by themselves, they spend a lot of time in their room watching TV, playing video games, or on their cell phone. They don't have anyone to go out or hangout with. How would you respond to that?
Would you criticize them? Would you try to help them?
Criticizing them is not going to help them in any way. Do they want someone to hang out with in person? Many people - not just kids - have a ton of online friends. Some are perfectly happy with that.
I know that this might sound controversial. Maybe the reason that the child is like this is based on the parents. I had no friends growing up and still have issues trying to make friends as an adult. My parents were narcissists. I wasn’t allowed to go outside, wasn’t allowed to participate in sports. I was only allowed to do things that my mother forced me into it. Which means she made a “choice” for me and I had to do it. But then she told everyone that was something I wanted to do. But she didn’t “think” it was a good idea. I was the scapegoat child and all the family’s blame fell on me. So I was reprimanded for doing absolutely nothing. I found solace in my own company. Since it was the only place that I found safe. So growing up my only friends were the tv, video games, and books.
It may not necessarily always be the child. Why they are by themselves. There maybe other factors at play and they are responding accordingly.
Most people are blaming the parents for enabling the situation for whatever reason. Laziness, narcissism, substance abuse, all are reasons a child would end up like that.
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