When do they stop having a room at your house?

[A New Day]

I do always plan to have a space they can each sleep for visits home, assuming they move out of our general area.

I asked this question because I have a kid in college that will come home for school breaks. That kid’s room is considerably superior to a middle school kid’s that has a smaller room. The younger one wants to swap the rooms. While it does make sense in some ways, I’m afraid the college kid will feel hurt over the swap at this time.

[Frostnip]

Seems like maybe something the siblings could work out between themselves?

[KaraG]

Originally Posted by A New Day

I do always plan to have a space they can each sleep for visits home, assuming they move out of our general area.

I asked this question because I have a kid in college that will come home for school breaks. That kid’s room is considerably superior to a middle school kid’s that has a smaller room. The younger one wants to swap the rooms. While it does make sense in some ways, I’m afraid the college kid will feel hurt over the swap at this time.

Sounds logical. I'd just ask the the older one what he thinks about the switch so it's not a shock.

This thread reminded me of my ex. When our daughter turned 18, he called her while she was at my house and told her to come back to his and pick up all her stuff, he was kicking her out. He rented her room to some strange man. My younger kids had to deal with living with 2 men whenever they were staying at their dad's house.

[JONOV]

Originally Posted by Driver 47

When I bought our retirement home I choose to have extra bedrooms just in case my son ran into hard times. I told him there would always be a place for him here. (Also because eventually my wife and I are going to need assistance.) I made sure there's enough room in case grandchildren happen.

That, in my mind, is differentiated by the fact that he doesn't have "his" room.

By which I mean, my own parents recently moved to their retirement home which is actually bigger than the home they sold. The difference being that if me and my brother were going to stay the night there we'd have to debate about who got what bedroom.

In my own experience, my parents had the room that I slept in growing up somewhat cleaned out a little at a time. It became a guitar storage room, then the bed was moved to a corner to make space for a crib for my niece. The room still had my letterman's jacket, a few jerseys, and random clothes of mine left over time. Obviously I took most of that with me when they moved. Stuff you won't ever wear but don't want to part with.

[BostonMike7]

I lived at college pretty much all 4 years. I was always in a different dorm/off-campus housing, so I was never able to maintain a lease at a single location.

So i went home for summer. 3 months give or take and then I was gone again. When i graduated. My parents gave me 3 months grace period and then they were turning my bedroom into an office.

I had a good job and had decent savings and was a rather independent person, so i had no issue moving out.