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There isn't much you can do to change a lazy person into a hard working motivated person. If he is lazy, he's always going to be lazy.
The poor child is not lazy... he simply does not take an interest in what his dad is forcing him to do.
It comes across that the dad will not do anything that might interest the son.... just what HE is happy to do.
The OP had a thread about this exact same thing... back when the cild was FIVE!
The poor child is not lazy... he simply does not take an interest in what his dad is forcing him to do.
It comes across that the dad will not do anything that might interest the son.... just what HE is happy to do.
The OP had a thread about this exact same thing... back when the child was FIVE!
Yeah, I went back and reread that thread. The complaint was more or less the same as were the activities.
i sometimes think kids are too entertained these days. No one ever wants their kids being bored. I know people who have built pools that they can use 3 months out of year because they didnt want their kids to be bored in the summer. What will the kids do when mom and dad are no longer there to give them all this entertainment?
Get him in Cub scouts. He can socialise with others his own age and they do a different craft project every week. There's also the "Go See" trips like the fire department or ambulance station. They may have a summer day camp which teaches water safety and swimming.
I've taught myself a lot of talents ( sports, music, arts etc ) over the years. But my son has minimal to no interest when I try and teach him these things. I always give him a choice, like let's do drums, chess or computers. But he always prefers to watch YouTube videos. Occasionally he will do soccer and basketball with me. I do my best to make it fun and not get upset when me makes mistakes. Whenever I try and teach him a skill he says I am forcing him. Not sure if I just need to accept that he is not into learning new things?
I figure he gets his personality from his Mom who is the opposite of me. Much more go with the flow, loosey goosey and people oriented than me. I am highly disciplined and obsessive about learning.
WHY isnt the mom interested in teaching her son anything ?
Obsessive about anything is not good , but sounds like he is too bored and fills the void with videos
also mother should also participate in these activities
Get him in Cub scouts. He can socialise with others his own age and they do a different craft project every week. There's also the "Go See" trips like the fire department or ambulance station. They may have a summer day camp which teaches water safety and swimming.
I would hedge that with a caveat.
My oldest son went up through just below Eagle (he wasn't interested in it plus his Troop became an Eagle factory and he figured it wasn't worth as much as claimed).
His eleven years younger brother went to about for months of Den meetings and asked if he could quit. I was wondering when that would happen. The Den Mothers had the boys do math and vocabulary worksheets every meeting for the entire time, not any Cub Scout "stuff".
It turned out to be a systemic issue with the Pack, none of the boys stuck it out until Boy Scouts.
So the caveat is to make sure that Cubs are doing Cub "stuff" and not what the Den leaders think should be done or is easiest.
Even at age 7, it’s still best to have kids doing more formal instruction/teams. I know people who put their kids into relatively low commitment rec teams/leagues that last a few months. If they like it, they can continue. If not, they can find something else. I don’t know any parent that expects to be the sole teacher of their children. Team sports are best actually in the team setting. Local park districts usually offer fairly affordable options.
The OP's son is already on a soccer team. It's puzzling as to why the OP wants to put him into more team sports. He's already doing two sports: soccer and taekwondo. I can see enticing him into some casual leisure time play, occasionally, like shooting a few baskets (hopefully with a basketball rig that's size/age-appropriate), or throwing a football (if he's into sports enough to find that fun), but I don't understand the need to sign him up for additional directed team activity.
There's such a wide variety of other activities and pastimes to choose from. Why fixate on team sports?
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 06-26-2023 at 03:32 PM..
It's not about what the OP wants to do, it's about what the son wants to do.
Kids learn best when they are doing something they enjoy.
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