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He is 19, time to grow up! Military would probably do him some good.
My folks gave me some (good) advice at 16. They said I would be a legal adult in two years and would be fully responsible for my life. Responsibility included having my own place to live, which I would need to pay for. However if I were going to college full time and making progress toward a degree, I could stay at home rent free.
Take him to the Dept. Of Social Service. He is eligible. Get a income for rent, medical, food stamps and job search help and enroll in a college while doing this
with you as a friend to rent him a room. Thing is....he must be self motivated.
If the army will take him, I think you should encourage him to go that route.
I've got a somewhat similar (but worse) problem with my son.
I disagree with any poster who is telling you to let your son move home and support him, or to apply for financial aid, or anything of the sort.
This boy does not need coddling. He needs to assume adulthood.
The only way is forward. There's no going back. It would be detrimental and unhealthy to allow him to take up residence again in his childhood room, and resume the life of a dependent child.
The military will grow him up. They've been doing it for centuries.
Before there were student loans and rehab centers, there was the military. That was the option for directionless youth.
Many, many generations of boys just like your son (and mine) have been transformed into honorable men by serving in the US military.
True, times have changed... but boys haven't. Not really.
They still need the discipline, structure, comradery, and routine (not to mention the tough, older-male mentorship) that is the backbone of the US military.
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