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I was not allowed to date or have any sort of "ongoing" relationship with a boy until I was 16. I did have a summer "interest" on vacation, at 14, but that was not really a problem as my parents knew it couldn't go anywhere.
I still think 16 is an appropriate age for dating. I don't understand why people think that kids need to start younger. It's worked out well for us, so I stick by that.
It really seems like the relationship isn't causing a problem, from what you describe. If anything, it may help to keep your daughter grounded.
Considering she has issues with empathy, a relationship she wants to be in is a good thing. It's just that issue of keeping it appropriate for her age .
The scary part is I remember being 13 and it wasn't homework I was thinking about
My mom encouraged relationships with boys if she liked them (supervised of course). I didn't like the boys she liked though and the ones I liked didn't like me so it, simply, was not an issue. I was kind of hoping the same thing would happen with my girls.
It is with my youngest. She's had several boys interested in her but she's not interested in any of them. None of them compares to Edward Cullen LOL
Our rule? No dating until she's sixteen. So far, we haven't had a problem with it at all. Oh, sure, there are boys she likes, but she hasn't been the stereotypical moody, bratty teenager about matters. I'm hoping she stays that way.
We have a friend who's a counselor and is the local authority on teen drinking, drugs, and sex. Her advice for keeping teens away from all these things? Keep them busy until they're 18. Between violin, drama, choir, church, Habitat for Humanity, the American Heart Association, and A.P. classes, hopefully that'll do the job.
When I was in Jr. high in in early 80's almost NO ONE was having sex.
By the time I was a senior in highschool...there was a noticeable amount having sex in Jr. High (no...not with me...ewwwwww, but I'd hear thing via my friends with younger siblings and was shocked.)
It's probably going to happen with your daughter sometime in the next couple years so have that talk with her if you haven't already. There is NO way to police her that closely...but it's not a bad idea.
Well, I plan on trying. I keep telling her what's on the line. Every time a girl turns up pregnant at my high school, I remind her that they all think it won't happen to them.
I don't get sex in even high school. It's too young. They're still kids and have no clue what they're getting themselves into. Of course I was the girl no one would go out twice with because I said no. You know, an all girls school is sounding mighty good right now. I wonder if the one near us wants a chemistry/physics/math teacher? I hear they give free tuition for the children of their teachers.
Same sex schools aren't always the answer....they can invite trouble just because they are all-girl schools.
My older cousin and his friends sat outside the high priced Catholic girls high school waiting to see which girl they could get into their car. Some of them were willing participants. It was also interesting to see how short those plaid pleated skirts got also. Some of the girls even wore over-the-knee socks.
**Edited to add: I didn't mean to take on a misogynistic slant like a few other posts in this thread.
Instead of only locking away your female children, how about teaching both boys and girls the dangers of sex. I think many people (unintentionally or not) want to leave that to the girls. After all it is her who gets pregnant or gets her heartbroken, not the boy. Of course teen boys may get hurt too, they just don't show it as much.
I've heard people say "Oh, I'm glad I don't have any daughters! I won't be getting any bad phone calls!". As if when their son knocks someone up they won't be responsible.
It is a new age, hold both young women and men accountable.
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You know, an all girls school is sounding mighty good right now. I wonder if the one near us wants a chemistry/physics/math teacher? I hear they give free tuition for the children of their teachers. 
