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I'd be bothered, but wouldn't make an issue of it. It just might inspire her to buy more. Yikesl Look at it this way. Your daughter will outgrow it in no time. Also, accidents happen. It's tragic, but it's a part of life. Just pull out the grape juice.
Or an accidental splash of bleach. Works real well too.
I would be upset too. A similar thing *almost* happened to me over a toy and my MIL. Thank goodness she lives 2000 miles away! What upset me about the OP is that she doesn't want the commercial-ladened clothes. If it was just that her mom bought clothes from Old Navy, well--who cares in the end? I would have a short, calm, one-way conversation with your mom. Something along the lines of "Thank you for her present, but for the future, I don't want my children sucked into the huge commercialism geared toward kids these days. This is a belief structure I'm trying to teach my children as my right as a mom. If Julie wants something like this in the future, her and I will discuss it and I will make the final decision." Maybe that sounds too snotty, but man do I get mad at my mother and MIL trying to undermind me! Ugh!
You have a valid point. Your mother does not respect your position and wants to superimpose hers on you and your daughter. I am sure it felt like a slap in the face. Speak to her privately about this. As a grandmother she, too, wants to put her stamp on things but try to find a satisfactory solution. She needs to respect your wishes. Now, if your daughter is crazy about HM then that is another matter.
Pity your mother took the position that she knew you would not like it but went ahead and did it.
I would go see her and tell her what for.
I would not take the shirt from the child. Make a big issue out of it and it will haunt you forever. The t shirt can quietly get lost sometime down the track if you really hate it. Unless of course it is offensive in which case I would not allow her to wear it and tell her why. Keep you mom out of it though. Family is important.
Just have her wear it when Gramma is over but the rest of the times, who says she's gotta wear it?
We got some clothes like that before that we hated, but we didn't wanna hurt the person's feelings so we acted like we liked them, wore it in their presense, but had it sitting in the closet most of the year forgotten about. Wasn't that bigga deal.
You or your child could always just tell Gramma that she doesn't like Hannah Montana that much and/or it really isn't all that much in style anymore (or you could even say the kids actually would tease her for wearing it). I dunno. Just ideas.
OR last idea, if the tags are still attached you could just exchange it.
Personally I think the 1st idea is easiest. Just have her tuck it in the back of her drawer and forget about it and just know that that's how Gramma is and always will be. Just wear it when she's around and she won't be any the wiser that you don't wear it at school. No harm. No foul. If Gramma wants to think she got her way, that's her issue. But in the end you know the truth and you avoided some pointless argument.
Pity your mother took the position that she knew you would not like it but went ahead and did it.
I would go see her and tell her what for.
I would not take the shirt from the child. Make a big issue out of it and it will haunt you forever. The t shirt can quietly get lost sometime down the track if you really hate it. Unless of course it is offensive in which case I would not allow her to wear it and tell her why. Keep you mom out of it though. Family is important.
Agreed totally. Play along. Over time, the shirt can get lost, or damaged or simply outgrown or shrunk in the wash, etc so on. Thats another good option. I'm sure after a few months Gramma will have forgotten about the shirt anyways, at which point it can go away and she won't be the wiser.
This is all assuming your daughter cares less either way.
I think your mother was indeed disrespecting your authority over your children. She knows that the HM shirt is not what you desire for your child to wear, but she bought it anyway.
I think you should make the shirt disappear (like, not come back from being washed). It's your home and you get to decide what is in it, not your mom. The fact that she gave the shirt directly to your dd, knowing it was not to your standards (that you have the right to make for your family) shows that she's pretty bold and disrespectful. If you let this go by, it will probably just escalate.
My dd has Hannah pjs, but nothing teenie bopper idol for daily wear. It is a small compromise which works for us.
I was going to make that suggestion. Have her wear it as PJ's. But I do understand how you feel. I would have a talk with your mom in private and explain to her how you feel.
I don't like the character t-shirts, either.
When my sons get them from family members for birthdays and such, I cringe a little. When they were smaller, I let the kids know that those are brand new 'play' clothes, and not appropriate for school. Or they could wear them as their tops for their pj's.
As they get older, I have gotten more relaxed about it. If they like Spiderman and want to wear the t-shirt to school, I don't say a word anymore. My first grader came down today in a tie-dye t-shirt, plaid shorts, and one striped sock and one solid black sock.
I think I'd be more concerned about my mom's motives and behaviors than the actual t-shirt. Maybe it was innocent and you could bring up your thoughts to her again? Maybe it was more than that. Good luck to you!
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