My second grader got in a scuffle conflict on the playground today (a little rolling around over a basketball as far as I can determine - nobody's admitting they "started it" and no fists were swung). I got a call from the Principal at work, which is what I asked them to do in cases like this so I was glad they did.....(although I had hoped for a little longer than a month or so before I got a call!)
Our school has what they call "zero tolerance" for a few things and fighting is one of them...there is no warning and he knows that. My son was given a choice of one swat with the paddle (yes, they still do that with parental o.k. - some of you may recall our recent "corporal punishment consent" struggle) or an afternoon of detention or "isolation" as they call it.
I talked to my son briefly on the phone and he actually wanted to choose the swat...which surprised me big-time!...he's never had a paddling at school. Apparantly, the other boy chose the swat and he didn't want to be the only one to pick detention. Also, he told me this afternoon that "a swat's over really fast and isolation's not."...interesting take from a 7-year-old.
Anyway, maybe I should have let him stick with his decision....but, since I didn't have time to go down there and I don't want him paddled unless either his mom or I are there (and only for more serious infractions)...I made him take the detention and he is scheduled to do his 2 hours of "time" tomorrow afternoon.
I don't mean to start a discipline debate here (really
), just wondering....I don't remember having detention as an option til Jr. High (7th grade). Has anyone else out there heard of this for kids this age or is this unique? As I understand it, it works like this: Each grade has its own "isolation" period after school twice a week and one of the teachers from that specific grade serves as "warden" so to speak, so there are no older kids in the room. They just make them sit there silently and write sentences and such...yuck!
They can be assigned different amounts of time depending on the infraction between 30-minutes and 2-hours.
We've been doing SO good for the past month or so since school started (at school and home)! Really, it's been great lately.
I know "boys will be boys" and nobody was hurt or anything...I just hope this isn't the beginning of a bad phase.
Also....Since he is getting punished at school, we're letting that be it...no further punishment at home aside from mild fussing
. That's how my folks did it...only got in trouble at home if it was a note from the teacher for them to "handle it". My wife on the other hand, got in trouble at home even if there was a punishment at school, so she is a little reluctant to let it go without additional chores and such. What's the consensus out there on that little difference in opinion?
Thanks for reading my long diary entry....as always
JBAR