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Old 09-28-2010, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn New York
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OK. If your daughter/son comes home and says, "Mom! I'm doing porn! That's me! Here I am for all the world to see!" Would you be proud? Would you show the neighbors? Put it up on the family room wall with the senior portrait?

Porn. Not Playboy. Porn.

But that isn't what was said, he was LOOKING at porn, did not say anything about BEING in porn. 2 differnet thing.

I look at porn, yes i am a healthy man. I do not want to be in porn.

I agree with the other poster, porn has been around for ever, like at this point in time, who cares.
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Old 09-28-2010, 09:01 AM
 
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I care. I do not want my son to see a woman being gang banged, slapped around and being forced to blow men as NORMAL, ok? Especially not as an intro to sex.
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Old 09-28-2010, 09:06 AM
 
Location: maryland
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I care. I do not want my son to see a woman being gang banged, slapped around and being forced to blow men as NORMAL, ok? Especially not as an intro to sex.

Why i am not going to get into a discussion on different types of porn but suffice to say a lot is not like that. A lot is produced by women these days.
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Old 09-28-2010, 09:07 AM
 
Location: maryland
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Porn is not a healthy view of sex. Period. Nor should it be used as an introduction to the world of sex and relationships.

And why isn't it a healthy view of sex?
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Old 09-28-2010, 09:08 AM
 
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I care. I do not want my son to see a woman being gang banged, slapped around and being forced to blow men as NORMAL, ok? Especially not as an intro to sex.
I'm with you. Totally. The way the industry itself works is as nauseating and disgusting as the product it produces.
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Old 09-28-2010, 10:04 AM
 
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Why i am not going to get into a discussion on different types of porn but suffice to say a lot is not like that. A lot is produced by women these days.

Suffice it to say my husband and I watch a lot of porn. Most of it is online, free stuff which is what a kid would have access to.

I don't care who it is produced by. The VAST majority of it is NOT conducive to a healthy introduction to sex.
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Old 09-28-2010, 10:06 AM
 
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And why isn't it a healthy view of sex?

Hmmm...off the top of my head I can think of porns where the wife is cheating on the husband with her two best girlfriends, a student is seduced by a teacher, a woman has sex with her boss and his boss at the same time and they call her all kinds of nasty names and slap her around.

It's just not what I want my kids to view as "the norm" because it's not.
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Old 09-28-2010, 10:08 AM
 
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Suffice it to say my husband and I watch a lot of porn. Most of it is online, free stuff which is what a kid would have access to.

I don't care who it is produced by. The VAST majority of it is NOT conducive to a healthy introduction to sex.

Maybe it isn't but there is some. So rather then banning it totally wouldn't it make more sense to allow your kid to know what is acceptable to watch, and what shows a bit more realism. Or simply explain to your kid that what goes on in those movies does not reflect real sex. I mean kids are going to watch it anyway....better to at least educate them on the subject.
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Old 09-28-2010, 10:09 AM
 
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And why isn't it a healthy view of sex?

To add to my last post: You have to know the rules in order to break them correctly. IOW, yes, my husband and I watch porn. But that is NOT how either of us were introduced to the concept of sex. And since we know the concept of healthy sex, we can then expand on that idea and experiment within the confines of a healthy, mutual relationship.

I think it's unhealthy to show a young CHILD (yes a 12 year old is a child) a porn and relate it as a normal show of sexual satisfaction. Most porn is NOT just intercourse. It's not just two loving people in a relationship doing it. Hell, most of the time it's not even people who know each other (within character) who are doing it. You want to show a 12 year old that it's just oh so normal to blow the plumber? To have a teacher spank a girl and force a blow job on her? You really think that is a-ok?
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Old 09-28-2010, 10:10 AM
 
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Maybe it isn't but there is some. So rather then banning it totally wouldn't it make more sense to allow your kid to know what is acceptable to watch, and what shows a bit more realism. Or simply explain to your kid that what goes on in those movies does not reflect real sex. I mean kids are going to watch it anyway....better to at least educate them on the subject.

I don't need to show my child someone sticking a needle in his arm in order to show him that he shouldn't use IV drugs, ok?

That is so silly.
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