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Here is the situation.
Yesterday I went to pick up my dd from pre-school. I was early and I watched through the window for a little bit. My dd's friend was wearing low rise pants and you could see her behind when she sat down. Her parents aren't the slutty type but I am not that close to them so I didn't say anything. But I am wondering if I should have said something. If my dd was wearing clothes that exposed her like that I would like to know. What do you think?
Low rise pants in preschool? Good grief. I probably would have mentioned it to them. Not in a judgmental way but something along the lines of " I just wanted you to know that I could see Jenny's behind when she sat down/ bent over (whatever) and I wanted to let you know to save her some embarrassment". If you've talked to them at all then that shouldn't seem that out of line.
No you shouldn't have said anything. If it is bad enough to be a distraction to the class the teacher will take care of it. If it's not bad enough to be a distraction to the class, then it's just young kids being young kids and parents with difference in personal taste. Really not worth any trouble.
If you were able to observe this from watching for a couple of minutes, the teacher undoubtedly has noticed this as well. I would stay out of it. Let the teacher handle it.
I do not know if the pants were low rise or they just were a little too big and falling down. But what I was trying to figure out is why her underwear wasn't showing. I know when my dd wears pants that are too big I can tell because her undies are showing.
I was debating whether to say something but since it was dad who picked her up I chickened out.
Here is the situation.
Yesterday I went to pick up my dd from pre-school. I was early and I watched through the window for a little bit. My dd's friend was wearing low rise pants and you could see her behind when she sat down. Her parents aren't the slutty type but I am not that close to them so I didn't say anything. But I am wondering if I should have said something. If my dd was wearing clothes that exposed her like that I would like to know. What do you think?
The clothes might be too tight and the parents might not have money at this very moment to buy her more clothes in a bigger size.
Or perhaps they are her new clothes and she hasn't grown into them yet, and maybe they'll shrink when they're washed.
No you shouldn't have said anything. If it is bad enough to be a distraction to the class the teacher will take care of it. If it's not bad enough to be a distraction to the class, then it's just young kids being young kids and parents with difference in personal taste. Really not worth any trouble.
I was thinking that too. Since reading CD I have learned I am a little bit of a prude. I truly felt uncomfortable when I saw her but I am sure others may not see anything wrong with it. I know in gymnastics I make my dd wear stockings or leggings under her leotards but other parent's don't.
I do not know if the pants were low rise or they just were a little too big and falling down. But what I was trying to figure out is why her underwear wasn't showing. I know when my dd wears pants that are too big I can tell because her undies are showing.
Now that you're discussing underwear too, I think you're a tad too focused on the way this child is dressed.
Maybe the girl wasn't wearing any underwear. So what. It's possible that she dresses herself.
She wouldn't be the first preschooler to forget to put on underwear when dressing herself.
I would feel the same way you do about it. That's really not appropriate dress for children (or for adults for that matter...). But, I chose no. It's up to the preschool to inform parents if they think there is something inappropriate going on. Chances are if you were able to see that through a window, the child care/preschool workers have been seeing it all day. It's their job to say something to the parents. If you really just have to say something, don't say it to the parents. Try casually mentioning something to one of the preschool teachers. "Oh, poor girl needs to pull her pants up." Or something to bring their attention to the problem.
No, I wouldn't say anything - I've seen plumber buttocks on a 4yo in pre-school, but it was clear that the mother was trying to buy the "trendy" clothing, making her daughter a copy of herself (she was a very young mother).
I think parents can see their kids bending at home and elsewhere, too. If the pants are falling down because of being a bit too big, they are aware. Perhaps it's not a problem to some, and perhaps they were behind in their laundry. Who knows. It's not a big deal.
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