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Morally it is important to stay true to the deceased desires.
If they had asked to include the distribution down to the grandchildren, then that's what should be done. No questions or second guessing involved.
It is not a matter of what WE think is fair or not fair. It's a matter of the deceased wishes being fulfilled exactly as they specified.
That may be but grannies wishes but still not equal or “fair”
That may be but grannies wishes but still not equal or “fair”
And that some times happens.
A Family of 5 is naturally going to consume/need more resources. more food, more space etc etc.
If one sister only has 1 kid does she need a 4 bedroom home simply because child number 2 needs one?
Here's the thing, Granny gets to decide. So if you are the mom with 1 kid, your undies are in a knot because you didn't get what "sister" did???? (for example)
She did not divide her estate per family, she did it by individual. each individual got exactly the same amount.
Last edited by eliza61nyc; 08-03-2018 at 06:45 AM..
That may be but grannies wishes but still not equal or “fair”
Equal is quantitative and easily decided, but fair is in the eye of the beholder, or in this case the bequest-er.
You can have an opinion about fair, but only Granny can decide what's fair in her experience and mind.
Obviously you've already come to the same decision based on the fact that you placed fair in quotes.
Grannie had 7 people that she loved, probably loved them equally. She wanted to gift each of them the same amount. What does it matter what "family" got more?
Let's say she split it by daughters.. One daughter would have $150K to pay for her kids college. The other would only be able to contribute $40K apiece for her kids college. Now is that "fair"?
Grannie had 7 people that she loved, probably loved them equally. She wanted to gift each of them the same amount. What does it matter what "family" got more?
Exactly. The money wasn't distributed to the families, it was gifted to individual persons - and each individual received exactly the same amount. How is that not fair? Kids aren't mere appendages of their parents, and if Grandma was smart, she set up her gift so that the parents will have no access to any of their kids' moneys. It is NOT "family money"!
Grannie had 7 people that she loved, probably loved them equally. She wanted to gift each of them the same amount. What does it matter what "family" got more?
I expect that there's some sort of sibling rivalry and/or jeaslouy going on. Given the OP's rebuttal of everyone who has disagreed, I think this is more of a rant than anything else.
Personally, I think grandma had the absolute right to distribute her estate any way she wanted, including leaving it all to charity or all to one person. She picked a fair way.
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