Daycare called Child Protective Services - what to do (Chester: mover, house)

[FlGuyMover]

We are new to the area from Florida. Our daughter is 4 and goes to a daycare that my wife has had some issues with. We live in Delaware Counthy.

A social worker from the Office of Children and Youth Services, Chester, within the Department of Human Services called my wife today. At school, my daughter said that when she plays with her mother, she kicks and punches. Hence the call. They said it wasn't the highest level of concern, but the lower level. The social worker said he wasn't too concerned but wants to come to the house and wants proof of her shot record, that we have running water, and wants to see her room. We have a new construction house, so we have all that. We have never hit our daughter; in fact, my wife is physically disabled.

But I've never had this happen before and want suggestions. Do we need a lawyer? The social worker on the phone didn't seem to concerned, but he could be just playing good cop.

[1ondoner]

Does your daughter have any physical injuries, marks or scars? Teachers have a duty to report to social services if they suspect a child is being abused. It could be your wife is violent and you don't know. Hopefully, there is nothing going on but if something is happening it would be in the interest of your daughter if it is stopped.

Saying that your wife is physically disabled does not mean she is not in a position to hurt your daughter.

[FlGuyMover]

Originally Posted by 1ondoner

Does your daughter have any physical injuries, marks or scars? Teachers have a duty to report to social services if they suspect a child is being abused. It could be your wife is violent and you don't know. Hopefully, there is nothing going on but if something is happening it would be in the interest of your daughter if it is stopped.

Saying that your wife is physically disabled does not mean she is not in a position to hurt your daughter.

I do not for a moment think my wife is hurting my child based on being around them all the time, my wife's personality, demeanor, etc. Not at all. There are no physical injuries. The social worker said they examined my daughter and there was no sign of physical injury, hence the reason he wasn't too concerned.

My wife rushed our daughter to her pediatrician after daycare. My daughter had a talk with the pediatrician in private without my wife. According to my wife, who heard it from the pediatrician, my daughter admitted to lying at school as a way to avoid an activity with other kids who were hurting her. The pediatrician said he is seeing this more than often and said he'd create a report.

[1ondoner]

You need to get to the bottom of this. Your girl says she's being hurt by other kids at daycare and at daycare they say she could be abused at home.

My main worry for my kids is bullying at school. Even here on this board there is bullying when you say something that others don't agree with. As an immigrant, I have noticed there is widespread bullying in this country. I've had people reach out to me in private to say they are afraid of writing stuff here because they'll be lashed at for having a different opinion.

Originally Posted by FlGuyMover

I do not for a moment think my wife is hurting my child based on being around them all the time, my wife's personality, demeanor, etc. Not at all. There are no physical injuries. The social worker said they examined my daughter and there was no sign of physical injury, hence the reason he wasn't too concerned.

My wife rushed our daughter to her pediatrician after daycare. My daughter had a talk with the pediatrician in private without my wife. According to my wife, who heard it from the pediatrician, my daughter admitted to lying at school as a way to avoid an activity with other kids who were hurting her. The pediatrician said he is seeing this more than often and said he'd create a report.

[FlGuyMover]

I'm still at work. My wife avoided talking about it to my daughter. We're all going to have a talk this evening.

[FlGuyMover]

We're not getting a lot of answers from our daughter on what happened. She said she didn't tell anyone what was alleged. But then comes back and then says a girl named Ava is pushing and pinching her. I wonder if she said "Ava" and it got hear by a teacher as "Mama."

Anyhows, my wife had been eyeing another school. I am writing the two week withdrawal notice right now. But if anyone knows the right way to interact with the social worker come Wednesday, that would be great.