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You know, I've never understood the need to pass a political litmus test before one can be a romantic interest or friend. I mean, in the great scheme of things, I think the priorities should rank along these lines:
1) Chemistry (Well, duh)
2) Consideration/Ethics
3) Sense of humor
4) Personal responsibility
5) Shared interests
6) Everything else, including attitudes towards dogs, cats, and politics.
Now that's not to say that your political views aren't important. My convictions are pretty strong. At the same time, I think it's more important to seek out those things that make a strong foundation for a relationship--and who they vote for isn't one of them.
I've known any number of couples who held politically diametrically views. I am personally friends with any number of people that make for a pleasant exchange of opinions over glasses of wine, rather than treat politics as some kind of blood sport.
My feelings EXACTLY cpg - which is why I didn't bother to answer the OP seriously.
Anyone who thinks they should choose who to date (or even marry) based on their political points of view is selling themselves (and potential partners) very short in my opinion
My feelings EXACTLY cpg - which is why I didn't bother to answer the OP seriously.
Anyone who thinks they should choose who to date (or even marry) based on their political points of view is selling themselves (and potential partners) very short.
I have to disagree. I think it wise for two people to know each other's stance on abortion before anyone takes a stitch of clothing off. Birth control can fail.
I have to disagree. I think it wise for two people to know each other's stance on abortion before anyone takes a stitch of clothing off. Birth control can fail.
Well of course, that's true.
But my point was that people with opposing political views can still respect one another and have very successful, interesting marriages or relationships. If you only date people exactly like you with all the same viewpoints life can get kind of boring!
But my point was that people with opposing political views can still respect one another and have very successful, interesting marriages or relationships. If you only date people exactly like you with all the same viewpoints life can get kind of boring!
It's a matter of degree, with me personally. I'm pretty rabid left-wing on social causes. Then there are things I'm fairly conservative on and things on which I sit the fence, like immigration. If someone cares a LOT about immigration one way or the other, I could see his points and, yes, it would be an interesting conversation. Likewise, the issues I'm conservative on aren't high on my agenda. I'm not going to base my vote on those. If someone is passionate about it or takes a more liberal stance, meh, whatever.
But if someone is rabidly right-wing on the things on which I'm rabidly left-wing, look out, because I donate to, work with, and support organizations I believe in. If a man is against embryonic stem cell research, he's going to have a hard time with certain aspects of my career. Stuff like that is tough to reconcile if two people are passionate about their beliefs and put a lot of effort into supporting their causes.
My feelings EXACTLY cpg - which is why I didn't bother to answer the OP seriously.
Anyone who thinks they should choose who to date (or even marry) based on their political points of view is selling themselves (and potential partners) very short in my opinion
What's more, everybody I have ever met who judged others by political beliefs were rather tedious, joyless souls themselves. Not exactly the kind of people you'd want at a dinner party or in the bedroom.
Well all the ones I came across were in a north eastern school. They were running from probably the same things you were. Its a lovely combo of sweet and liberal. I love a southern liberal friend or foe they have a charm of their own.
What's more, everybody I have ever met who judged others by political beliefs were rather tedious, joyless souls themselves. Not exactly the kind of people you'd want at a dinner party or in the bedroom.
yeah, they exist. i associate them with the old, leafy pre-WWII neighborhoods of university towns in the south, like Columbia, Clemson, Athens, Chapel Hill, Oxford.
Wandering among the locals of these places you run into a lot of people who are traditional southerners, but also quite liberal. Around the middle of the income scale, you're talking Volvo-driving NPR-listening types. Higher on the income scale you start to notice that these folks are very philanthropic, or they make an effort to be seen as such.
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If you only date people exactly like you with all the same viewpoints life can get kind of boring!
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