Gay couples having children (generations, voted, New Jersey, pay)
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Having said all that. Would I agree that Gay parents should be Equally placed in a queue for adoption with other couples??? My head says they should have equal billing, but my heart says No. I guess that means I haven't fully come around to the idea as yet
What does that mean? Equally placed. There are thousands of children in foster care. Do you mean equally placed for specific types of children?
I love that one sentence of his "why are these children in foster care to begin with? because their gay parents abandoned them? Nooo, because their straight parents abandoned them".
What does that mean? Equally placed. There are thousands of children in foster care. Do you mean equally placed for specific types of children?
I could have worded the whole thing a lot better
I was trying to say when it comes to adopting babies, there is of course a long long waiting list for adoption. Would I place a Gay couple fairly with the others on the waiting list (equal). All would I give preference to Heterosexual couples over Gay couples on that long waiting list. Sadly, I would hate to say it I would still always give heterosexual couples preference.
Love Dan Savage. I like his point that gay couples don't have children by accident--they have to really want children to go through all that paperwork.
Am I against it or for it? In all honesty, I don't know!
How do children handle it if they see their gay parents showing affection around them. A hug, a kiss, snuggle up on the couch......the type of affection that a man/woman parents could/would do around their children. In a man/woman parental situation, kids come into the bedroom and wake their parents up on Christmas morning. Do kids of gay parents do this? If kids are babies, they don't have a say on who they live with. What do older (pre-teen to teen) kids think of their gay parents sleeping together? How do the kids classmates treat them when they find out that the parents are gay? Just how does a kid introduce their gay parents to a friend?
Question would be......do gay parents have to act differently around their kids than man/woman parents?
I have mixed feelings about it. At the end of the day what really matters is the child is care for, loved and nutured by their parents whether they are gay or straight.
On one hand I am against a child being subjected to the hatred and challenges that may come from a gay marriage. I couldn't imagine as the child got older that he/she wouldn't be teased by his fellow peers. Just look at what happened with the recent tragedies of teens coming out that they were gay. Even though they themselves may not be gay, they could be harrassed because their parents are.
On the other hand, who is to say a straight marriage is the best environment to raise a child either. We've all heard stories of abuse sexual, emotional and physical abuse towards kids.
I guess what I am saying is that I want every child to have a chance at a life that is free of pain, ridicule, abuse, etc. but that would be asking for the impossible.
Bingo! I believe in equal rights for all law-abiding citizens! What a damaging idea! Our country and society are going right into the diaper genie!
It's funny, macgeek, that 2 of the 3 things you listed about parenthood were gross diapers. That's one of the things that comes to mind first for me too!
I'm not married, and have no children, BUT I have had enough nieces and nephews to have experienced parents interacting with newborns who are pooping green Velcro that smells like New Jersey on a 102° day
and even with their eyes watering from the stench THEY STILL LOVE THE CHILD.
I have mixed feelings about it. At the end of the day what really matters is the child is care for, loved and nutured by their parents whether they are gay or straight.
On one hand I am against a child being subjected to the hatred and challenges that may come from a gay marriage. I couldn't imagine as the child got older that he/she wouldn't be teased by his fellow peers. Just look at what happened with the recent tragedies of teens coming out that they were gay. Even though they themselves may not be gay, they could be harrassed because their parents are.
On the other hand, who is to say a straight marriage is the best environment to raise a child either. We've all heard stories of abuse sexual, emotional and physical abuse towards kids.
I guess what I am saying is that I want every child to have a chance at a life that is free of pain, ridicule, abuse, etc. but that would be asking for the impossible.
That's life though dear, life will always produce challenges no matter what you try to avoid.
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