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I was discussing this with my mother...imagine if a father got his daughter pregnant, or a brother and a sister, and the female gave birth to a child (while I'm anti abortion I believe it would be justified in this case). But say she wants to raise the child.
I maintained that the child should never be told the truth...ever. And if it can be helped, I would even say that child should be kept away from his or her father. My mother said the child deserved to know the truth, but I said something like that could really mess with me, my sense of self-worth etc. Sure it's not my fault, and I'm a valid human being, but don't underestimate just how much it can mess with you.
So what'd your opinion be? Should the child know the truth?
What if the mother and child severed all contact with the father?
Well, I don't know about stats (regarding how many of such children eventually find out "on their own" and at what age), but I think the kid would be suspicious, and start either asking or looking for answers at a certain age, if he grew up not knowing who his father was.
Well, I suppose, it could be possible that the mother marries/gets with another man, who raises the kid as his own and keeps the paternity a secret (in a way that avoids seeing/bringing up the previous father in any discussion).
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Originally Posted by Stumbler.
Well, I don't know about stats (regarding how many of such children eventually find out "on their own" and at what age), but I think the kid would be suspicious, and start either asking or looking for answers at a certain age, if he grew up not knowing who his father was.
Well, I suppose, it could be possible that the mother marries/gets with another man, who raises the kid as his own and keeps the paternity a secret (in a way that avoids seeing/bringing up the previous father in any discussion).
Okay, so is it better to cut off contact and lie then?
What good could it possibly do for the CHILD ? How horrible will they feel ? I think that if they are ever told it should be at a very adult age (30) when they have a sense of self and a stable life. Even then it should be because it cant be avoided for some reason.
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