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I have been on the fence for a long time about having a child, but lately I've started thinking about having a child a lot--aka baby lust. It's just starting with me, and I wouldn't even say it's very strong at this point, but there's a noticable difference between now and before--before I had no interest in kids or babies and now I'm starting to think about having a baby a lot.
I am in my early 30's and have been married for four years. I wouldn't say I'm ready quite yet, but I'm getting there. I have given this issue a lot of thought and done research as well. The only problem is I have a couple of health issues that would make pregnancy very difficult--I have already been told that by my Dr.
I am meeting with my gyn in a few weeks to discuss this matter further, but I may not be able to carry a child at all.
Anyhow, I wondered: how did you know when the time was right to have a child? What did it feel like to you when you knew you were ready?
I felt like something was missing and also had those feelings of looking at other babies and pregnant women. Our doggies were not "cutting it" anymore, I wanted a baby. I thought I was ready but to be honest, I was petrified when the nurse said I was being discharged and asked if we could stay one more night. LOL
i waited a long time before iwas ready. dh was ready on our wedding night--lol
it took me 8 yrs and much patience from him.
i just started to get this gnawing feeling like i really needed to do this.
and just like therewego, i was shocked that they wanted me to keep the baby in my hospital room and when they discharged me, i was like "what?" and take the baby with me?! lol--it's absolutely true
My feelings were very similar. I felt like I had baby lust and pregnancy envy! That said; you are never really ready.
This is the simplest explanation.
All of my children were surprises which in some ways, makes things easier. But now that my "baby" is 16 months old, every time I see a baby, I feel that lust to have one inside of me--to go through all the changes, feeling the baby kick, and holding that newborn close and smelling that perfect baby smell. So, I have the lust but I'm going to keep that in check (4 is enough for my husband).
Also, I had serious medical problems with my last pregnancy. Make sure you have all the cards on the table with your OB/GYN before you make a decision.
I did not feel much before I was pregnant. There was never the lifelong dream of becoming a mother, but when I held each of my children for the first time, I felt like I had known each one my entire life. They had been with me in spirit my whole life but when they were born they were given their physical form.
When you feel like you can't keep living without a child, is when you're ready for one.
I tend to think you either have the biological drive to have a child, or you don't. And if you don't, you can't force it, and you shouldn't have a baby.
I think you're starting to cave in to the pressure from your husband.
well, I will hope for you that any issues you have will not hinder you.Good luck at your OPGYN.
For me,I also waited along time to have kids.Then,I started feeling jealous of coworkers that got pregnant and just really had a longing for a baby.Once we decided to try it,it consumed my every thought.
When you feel like you can't keep living without a child, is when you're ready for one.
I tend to think you either have the biological drive to have a child, or you don't. And if you don't, you can't force it, and you shouldn't have a baby.
I think you're starting to cave in to the pressure from your husband.
I don't think I was ever 100% ready...there was always something we were not up to par on...Like finacially...
We always found an issue with why we were not ready...So we both came to the conclusion that we probably would never be 100% ready the way we would want to be. So we said heck with it and started trying...
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