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I'd love to see a second interview in about 4 weeks after having them home.
You give ANY mother of twins an interview after 4 weeks, and I bet you'd get the same response, whether they are 26 or 62- "zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz". Twins are an exhausting challenge to anyone, and without knowing this woman (she sounds like she has a lot of humor and spunk, though), I really wouldn't be able to say whether she would be any more or less competent than any other mother of twins. I really don't think that older woman=feeble.
I think it's viewed as a selfish thing because she says she wanted to have children in order for her 7 yr old to have siblings. Well, I'm sorry - I don't know too many 7 yrs old who are interest in newborns, or 10 yr olds interested in playing with their 3 yr old sibling or a 14 yr old wanting to hang with their 7 year old brother. Perhaps they should have tried sooner - a 7 yr gaps seems a little large for siblings to be true companions (at those ages anyway).
The fear in the world of ART (artificial reproductive technology) is that circumstances like this will raise eyebrows and somehow create enough of an uproar that ART will become more legislated. It already is to some extent. For example, will they start telling us that we can only cycle with our eggs up to a certain age? Will they legislate what age is too old? Some people think trying to become a first time parent at 35 is ludicrous! Many IVF clinics have an age cut-off of about 52-55 yrs old to cycle with donor eggs.
While I don't want to judge her, I personally know that I could not become a first-time parent at the age of 60. If I already had children, I would have to think how this decision also impacts them. It's one thing for all of this to occur naturally, especially at younger age, but when you CHOOSE to do something so drastic as this at age 60, I think it's a different game.
My Mom gave birth to me at 41. I was always asked if my parents were my grandparents. A couple of years ago my mom, my sister and I got on an elevator and someone thought we were three generations! I'm getting married for the first time to a man who is 38 and I'm 47. We've decided not to have children. I'm not putting a kid through that. I don't care how young you feel...you're not 20 or 30 any more! It's not fair to the kids. You might be calmer and more understanding about things...but there is a reason you are much more furtile at 20 than at 40, it's a little thing called energy!
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