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Get rid of the girlfriend and get a dog. Find other outlets to answer your human need for connections. Volunteer in human services, join sports teams, etc. Relationships where you don't have total control give you way too much angst. Sometimes people just can't handle intimacy and partnerships. Even if your girlfriend marries you and is totally loyal to you, over time you will become jealous of friendships with other women or even your children. You will become abusive or so overly posssesive that things will go sour and you might be one of those guys that shows up at her job with a gun. Get a dog.
Get rid of the girlfriend and get a dog. Find other outlets to answer your human need for connections. Volunteer in human services, join sports teams, etc. Relationships where you don't have total control give you way too much angst. Sometimes people just can't handle intimacy and partnerships. Even if your girlfriend marries you and is totally loyal to you, over time you will become jealous of friendships with other women or even your children. You will become abusive or so overly posssesive that things will go sour and you might be one of those guys that shows up at her job with a gun. Get a dog.
No. He does not have to give up on women and relationships. He just needs to tweak his thinking and approach. See the previous page for my post. He needs to learn how to deal with rejection and how to lessen its impact on his psyche.
Counseling him to give up on relationships sounds bitter and reckless.
No. He does not have to give up on women and relationships. He just needs to tweak his thinking and approach. See the previous page for my post. He needs to learn how to deal with rejection and how to lessen its impact on his psyche.
Counseling him to give up on relationships sounds bitter and reckless.
Having volunteered at a women's shelter and witnessing the impact of men who don't trust , I understand that people can manage their issues with proper counseling. But the odds are kind of bleak ..... just sayin'
Having volunteered at a women's shelter and witnessing the impact of men who don't trust , I understand that people can manage their issues with proper counseling. But the odds are kind of bleak ..... just sayin'
But advising someone to live in isolation based on a feeling he hasn't acted on and is requesting advice on how to manage is fear based advice and is as equally invalid as the OP's belief that all people get cheated on so so will he.
You've witnessed the impact working with women but have you done any prevention working with men?
get rid of the girlfriend and get a dog. Find other outlets to answer your human need for connections. Volunteer in human services, join sports teams, etc. Relationships where you don't have total control give you way too much angst. Sometimes people just can't handle intimacy and partnerships. Even if your girlfriend marries you and is totally loyal to you, over time you will become jealous of friendships with other women or even your children. You will become abusive or so overly posssesive that things will go sour and you might be one of those guys that shows up at her job with a gun. Get a dog.
How old are you kid? You don't seem mature enough for a grown up relationship. You have a gf, a girl you like and hang out with, but she hasn't met your friends? That isn't really a realtionship and she isn't going to be part of your life if you never let her in. You are dooming it to fail, she's probably just going along with it because she's not wanting to be that serious about things anyway. She may at some point but probably not since you are giving her all sorts of reasons to find someone more stable for the long haul.
You aren't going to die, life isn't going to end, and she isn't the only girl in the world for you. You've got to stop being so dramatic and insecure, that pisses girls off so bad you have no idea. Nobody in their right mind wants to be put in the position you are putting her in. But you are right about one thing, if you break up then cut off all contact. Nothing more patetic that hanging around trying to be "friends" when you clearly can't be.
You are obsessed, clinically depressed and consider stalking and abusive behaviour to be "normal." Yet you will not get mental health counseling or take medication. I am not sure we can help you on the Internet.
This.
I fear for the 'girlfriend's' safety. If she were the one writing about this guy, her possessive obsessive boy friend, I'd be advising her to RUN. Get. Out. Now. It will only get worse.
This young woman needs to get as far away from this jerk as possible. She is in a great danger.
Obviously this guy does not trust himself not to cheat and would probably welcome the opportunity. He either needs to get some mental guidance or just jerk himself out of this world and eliminate a developing danger to the rest of us.
This young woman needs to get as far away from this jerk as possible. She is in a great danger.
Obviously this guy does not trust himself not to cheat and would probably welcome the opportunity. He either needs to get some mental guidance or just jerk himself out of this world and eliminate a developing danger to the rest of us.
lol that's funny
I've already said that I have no intentions of cheating, I've just had a terrible past with females. I've also observed females from relationships that my friends have had, and the ones that I never thought would cheat, actually did. This is why I am the way I am, not because I want to cheat.
Your logic is skewed, you're saying that I don't trust my girlfriend because I don't trust myself?
Soo...I guess ALL men who don't trust their women, is really just getting ready to cheat, right?
Think of the stupidity you spew before you throw ad hominum attacks my way.
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, I understand that people can manage their issues with proper counseling. But the odds are kind of bleak 
..... just sayin' 
I agree with Catsmom21
