I can't seem to trust my girlfriend (boyfriend, woman, husband)
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I love my girlfriend, she is my world. However, I just can't seem to trust her. She has never done anything to make me believe that she is being unfaithful. The reasons I can't trust her is because of all these stories I hear about girlfriends who cheat. It just bothers me to know that a girl can cheat, and go on with her everyday life as if nothing happened. In certain cases, the boyfriend/husband will never find out about it. I know im being extremely insecure, but the thought of another man in bed with my girlfriend would literally kill me (I would commit suicide if I were ever to find out). So, I believe I'm dealing with some internal conflict within my head that is causing me to think this way.
Also, this is hurting my relationship, my girlfriend is getting a little fed up due to the fact that I can't trust her or any woman at all. I hate feeling this way but I feel its the only I can protect myself.
Another issue may be is that I am my girlfriends first. First boyfriend, and first lover. I'm scared that one day she will feel like she's missed out on life and begin to sleep with multiple partners, just to get it out her system (Idk I guess i'm just looking for excuses).
I love my girlfriend, she is my world. However, I just can't seem to trust her. She has never done anything to make me believe that she is being unfaithful. The reasons I can't trust her is because of all these stories I hear about girlfriends who cheat. It just bothers me to know that a girl can cheat, and go on with her everyday life as if nothing happened. In certain cases, the boyfriend/husband will never find out about it. I know im being extremely insecure, but the thought of another man in bed with my girlfriend would literally kill me (I would commit suicide if I were ever to find out). So, I believe I'm dealing with some internal conflict within my head that is causing me to think this way.
Also, this is hurting my relationship, my girlfriend is getting a little fed up due to the fact that I can't trust her or any woman at all. I hate feeling this way but I feel its the only I can protect myself.
Another issue may be is that I am my girlfriends first. First boyfriend, and first lover. I'm scared that one day she will feel like she's missed out on life and begin to sleep with multiple partners, just to get it out her system (Idk I guess i'm just looking for excuses).
Can anyone help me out?
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You have absolutely no reason not to trust your girlfriend, you even said it yourself. It's ridiculous to not trust her because you have heard stories about girls who cheat. You do realize that those stories have nothing to do with your girlfriend, right?
You sound very insecure. You need to get over that. That fact that you would commit suicide if she cheated on you is very unhealthy and also very unattractive.
And I must add that if you continue not trusting your girlfriend even though she has done nothing wrong, you will ruin your relationship with her. You cannot have a relationship without trust.
Look, the worse thing that can happen is she cheats on you and leaves you. So what? You were fine before you met her, why can't you be fine without her? Life goes on. I can guarantee you she will leave you if you keep worrying about this.
I think a little possessiveness is normal and necessary for a loving relationship but this is overkill. You have to tone it down some, man. Work on yourself and keep it away from your girlfriend until you get it under control because it will drive her away. Take some time to accept that you don't own her and she has free will but chooses you and this will ease some of your worries.
I love my girlfriend, she is my world. However, I just can't seem to trust her. She has never done anything to make me believe that she is being unfaithful. The reasons I can't trust her is because of all these stories I hear about girlfriends who cheat. It just bothers me to know that a girl can cheat, and go on with her everyday life as if nothing happened. In certain cases, the boyfriend/husband will never find out about it. I know im being extremely insecure, but the thought of another man in bed with my girlfriend would literally kill me (I would commit suicide if I were ever to find out).So, I believe I'm dealing with some internal conflict within my head that is causing me to think this way.
Also, this is hurting my relationship, my girlfriend is getting a little fed up due to the fact that I can't trust her or any woman at all. I hate feeling this way but I feel its the only I can protect myself.
Another issue may be is that I am my girlfriends first. First boyfriend, and first lover. I'm scared that one day she will feel like she's missed out on life and begin to sleep with multiple partners, just to get it out her system (Idk I guess i'm just looking for excuses).
Can anyone help me out?
Do yourself a big favor and get professional help now.
No one is worth committing suicide over. Think of others who care about you.
Fact is most relationships do not last. Since you are her first and you seem very young there is a high probability that this will not last.
Agreed. You are not being fair to your girlfriend. List of things to do:
1. Break up with girlfriend because it is manipulative and controlling to not trust her and make her feel bad about YOUR issues that she has nothing to do with
2. get some help about your trust, control, and suicidal issues
3. do not enter into another relationship until you have these issues under control.
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