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I am curious as to what other people fantasize about the kind of person they wish they could be. I think even people who are happy with themselves, may have a secret fantasy about it because reality doesn't allow someone to have everything they want.
Lately, I have been pondering what kind of person I want to be and what I really want.
Since this is a forum online, and we are for the most part anonymous, maybe we can let our hair down and share some of our wishes.
I'll go first-
I wish I was someone who always had loved ones around me and nice and caring people who want to be with me and have time for me. I am married and have my husband, but I wish I had best friends too and family who would want to and were able to spend time with me.
I have dreamed about being a model, famous, etc. when I was younger, but as I've gotten older, I realize I wouldn't want to and don't need to be those things.
I guess I just want to have love from people, even more than I already do. I wish I could have good people always ask me how I am doing, listen to me, want to spend time with me, visit me, etc. and really give me lots of attention and care. I want to be pampered and showered with attention and adoration by a circle of loved ones!
As for the life I want to live- well of course I want a life of leisure but still have things I feel passionate about doing to prove and demonstrate my abilities. I wish I lived in a country that was not so dysfunctional and that our community was safer, better, and healthier.
I am 67.5 years old and, though I have been 'forcibly retired by the economy' for the past 3 years, I can honestly say that I AM the person I always wanted to be. Am I perfect? No. Could I be better? Yes.
I'm a 27-year-old guy and a big one for me is wishing I had been the type of person who had a bigger and more complete family structure. I also wish I had grown up in and been truly part of a real (and decent) community. I see people who grew up in large families, as well as within the same community (whether it be a town or very stable part of a metro area) with all of the same people all through school and where their community is sort of like their extended family, and feel like I missed out and am at a disadvantage. I've thought about different styles, everything from small town/country to WASP-y, but what I wish I'd had really boils down to what I describe, no matter what the flavor. What's described in this song would have been fine, as long as I was happy:
On the other end of the spectrum, I've always admired the WASP-y urban upper-middle/upper class and country club set and wish I could be a guy like Edward Montgomery on Dharma and Greg. A genteel Southern family, community, and identity would be cool too.
I have dreamed about being a model, famous, etc. when I was younger, but as I've gotten older, I realize I wouldn't want to and don't need to be those things.
How about you guys?
I used to want to be famous. Many life experiences have enabled me to have the illusion of it. I modeled for a couple of years. No runway, but Coors Light, radio stations promos, CD cover for a band/fliers, convention work and was a calendar girl twice. It's not what it's cracked up to be and constant restrictive dieting to be camera ready sucks. Photo shoots aren't fun - bunch of awkward poses, being deyhydrated and hungry. I agree with Elizabeth Hurley who said, "It's very boring to stand around and look pretty."
Right now I want to be one of those classy, impeccably dressed trophy wives with a huge rock on my finger, jet-setting to Hawaii with my husband.
I'm very happy with my life right now, but I wish I was able to maintain more mindfulness about my impact on the world. I want to donate my time to different charitable and political causes, but I have severe ADD and getting that off the ground is difficult when I have a life so full of distractions. I have many friends and family whom I value and I find that I tend to devote a good chunk of my time to maintaining those relationships.
I'd like to be more mindful in general. About how I impact the world, about what I eat and how I maintain my health, and about how I treat people. But there are so many distractions!
I guess when you get down to it, the great struggle of my life has been dealing with my ADD and achieving happiness despite it. I think I'm at a point in my life where I can start to look past achieving happiness and start to work for other things though. The ADD will always be a part of me, and I just need to keep it in check if I want to achieve more.
I used to want to be a Disney Channel star, but I'm glad that I didn't because look at how they turn out:
Lol, in all seriousness:
I'd like to be a speech-langauge pathologist, which is what I'm in school for. I'd like to find 2 good friends. The friends that I have don't know how to keep in touch. I'd like to be both physically and mentally healthy. I'd like to help others with their journey towards losing weight (after I figure out how) and battling depression. I'd like to help victims of bullying.
I hope to be a wife someday and if I can be a mom, too, that'd be awesome!
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