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I guess my life is the exact OPPOSITE of friends and family who are married, parents and grandparents (all at once) who still work -- and don't have 5 MINUTES to themselves. I look at their commitments and it's amazing. One friend was on 2 committees at church, 2 committees at her kids' schools, worked full time, did stuff with her husband, AND was a CASA volunteer (court appointed special advocate) -- and wondered why she was tired all the time....
I'll never forget, she said others seemed to be able to get so much work done and asked me to pray for her to have more energy. I said 1) no one I know is as busy as you are...and 2) I'll pray for you alright -- but for you to learn how to say "NO," sometimes when people are asking you to serve on all these committees! She said, "I know, but they're all good causes." And I said, "Yes, they are. But YOU don't have to do them all at the same time. ONE school committee, and ONE church committee at a time is plenty with all the other things you have going on." Just LOOKING at her calendar wore me out!
She said she'd volunteer to "help out" on ONE PART of a project...and next thing you know, other people working on it needed help with THEIR part, too. They'd ask or she'd volunteer -- because she knew it needed to be done. She is soo sweet and caring, and truly believes in "service" to others. She just has trouble saying "no." And sometimes you just have to say "NO, I can't do it." -- and NOT even let them talk you into "helping out a little."
Another friend has a husband, 3 kids, two part time jobs, and volunteers at church. She's got something in the works going on every time I talk to her.
Most of us need both enjoyment/pleasure AND meaning/purpose in our lives to feel what humans call "happiness".
It sounds like you are able to enjoy yourself with the life you have and that's great. (travel, leisure time, etc)
But it does sound like you may lack "meaning" in your life.
My advice would be to look to add ONE activity that would be meaningful to YOU (and only you know what that would be): a volunteer gig, spending more time in nature, getting a pet to care for, attending religious services, etc.
It may "pay off" immeasurably.
Good luck!
Even if it is OK doing minimal now it is a dead end long term. There will come a time when because of health or other reasons you will miss work. If you are just scraping by you will then start to feel stress and have problems. If you get a few of these situations in a short amount of time you could lose all of the comforts you have.
What about car? If you have a car it may need to be repaired or replaced at some point.
What about retirement? Do you plan on working the rest of your life?
At the end of the day you have to find your own answers but you should look at what problems you may face long term and if you can do a little more to counter them.
Well, I'll post a counterpoint to those telling you how great your life sounds and how wonderful the freedom is, yada yada. Frankly, you sound unengaged, apathetic, uninterested and uninteresting. For me it wouldn't be OK at all, and I avoid such people. Life is what you make it. Sounds like you haven't made it very much beyond the basics and you're good with that. So what do you think anybody here is going to able to tell you?
Sounds like the life of a stoner. Which can be pretty alright--for awhile. If it continues, one day the "smoke will clear", and 30 years of your life will have passed you by.
Suitably reminds me of Pink Floyd "Dark Side of the Moon" song lyrics: ". . . and then one day you'll find, 10 years have got behind you, no one told you when to run. . . .you missed the starting gun."
Sounds like the life of a stoner. Which can be pretty alright--for awhile. If it continues, one day the "smoke will clear", and 30 years of your life will have passed you by.
Suitably reminds me of Pink Floyd "Dark Side of the Moon" song lyrics: ". . . and then one day you'll find, 10 years have got behind you, no one told you when to run. . . .you missed the starting gun."
You gotta live in a way that makes you happy, but don't get bent if some people find your attitude unattractive.
Doesn't seem like he really cares. Why does everything we have to do involve whether or not other people find it cool or attractive? I say if the OP's content with his life then good for him. He knows what's best for him not anyone else here.
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Maybe we slackers should form a club or something.
At least we don't harm anyone, we don't join the military or work in organized crime, unlike some pillars of the community I know around here who will expend large amounts of time and money on harassment of people they don't like, when they don't have anything better to do.
Maybe we slackers should form a club or something.
At least we don't harm anyone, we don't join the military or work in organized crime, unlike some pillars of the community I know around here who will expend large amounts of time and money on harassment of people they don't like, when they don't have anything better to do.
Or like the absolute scum society who go around manipulating and abusing others.
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