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I have ADD, so my temper has been unstable at times.
I tend to live my life from day to day keeping certain things in mind:
-Am I treating people with the patience and kindness I would like to receive in return?
-Why am I so invested in this particular issue? Does it matter in the big scheme of things? Why do I need to be right?
-Is this person someone who contributes to or detracts from my overall happiness? (and then I react accordingly by drawing them closer or putting them at a distance)
I seldom find reason to yell at anyone - certainly not my friends, certainly not my coworkers and certainly not the retail folks and clerks I encounter. My mother and father and I will tear it up sometimes, but that's an old pattern I've left behind with them.
I never get in arguments anymore...even if I say the sky is blue and they say it is NOT!
Who cares if they are stupid , or don't know what they are talking about or
are uninformed or have the curse of an inflated ego...so insecure they must be right!
Smile and walk away. Who effin cares.
There is a phrase I like ...Ya wanna be right or ya wanna be happy?
(Try this for the next time, see if it works for you.) Take care. We've all been there!
I never get in arguments anymore...even if I say the sky is blue and they say it is NOT!
Who cares if they are stupid , or don't know what they are talking about or
are uninformed or have the curse of an inflated ego...so insecure they must be right!
Smile and walk away. Who effin cares.
There is a phrase I like ...Ya wanna be right or ya wanna be happy?
(Try this for the next time, see if it works for you.) Take care. We've all been there!
That'll be $140 please....kidding.
You take Visa, MC, or food stamps? :-)
Best to be happy in my own skin. I'm trying to change my ways and therapy is helping, but it's a slow go. I hate crying, but for the first time in maybe 18 months (since my separation), and I'm a grown man who's not supposed to, I cried.
It's unfortunate you walked out saying "whatever." That's what some children these days say when they face an intellectual challenge that requires more than four brain cells, or an attention span exceeding two seconds. It diminishes an adult to say it, not much better than "nanny nanny boo boo."
"I'm done treating your narrow-minded views like they have value" would have suited your mood and managed to convey something. Then, later, when the person held a grudge against you for calling him or her narrow-minded, you could be ready to explain the narrowness of mind that you meant.
I've found that you just have to not care. I feel like I care more than others about certain topics or certain things and it gets me into trouble with escalation. Rather than letting something go, I have to have the last word.
I really have to fight that because I also have a tendency to feel superior BECAUSE I care so much! So to have to "give up" and at the same time act like something doesn't matter is a tough one.
It's unfortunate you walked out saying "whatever." That's what some children these days say when they face an intellectual challenge that requires more than four brain cells, or an attention span exceeding two seconds. It diminishes an adult to say it, not much better than "nanny nanny boo boo."
"I'm done treating your narrow-minded views like they have value" would have suited your mood and managed to convey something. Then, later, when the person held a grudge against you for calling him or her narrow-minded, you could be ready to explain the narrowness of mind that you meant.
Yes I'll agree that that would convey but I also guess another method would be to just quietly walk and in so doing, keep telling myself: "This person's not my equal! I'm not gonna stoop to their level. I'm better than that!"
I was already in a bad mood because a so-called "friend" hurt me. On top of which I had received some not-so-good news from another friend (this latter friend actually a stand-up person). Anyway, had a disagreement with an associate about something I thought trivial. I've been doing my best to control my temper and thus far, I've been OK. Anyway, the disagreement was getting out of hand and voices began rising. Given that I was already upset and hurt, I just screamed, "WHATEVER!!!" and stormed out, slamming the door loudly. Just one of those days where **** keeps piling up! I'm about to the point where I just don't want to speak to anyone! Or rather, the few who can approach me are unavailable for whatever different reasons.
I don't think that I ask for much. Just a little understanding. We can agree to disagree if our thoughts differ, but I'm so damn sick and tired of dealing with narrow mindedness!!!
Right now, I'm upset, hurt, and have no damn idea what to do about it!!!
"Upset, hurt." Emoting, you are.
That's the problem. You're supposed to (if your head is screwed on right) react to stupidity, not "narrow mindedness." You used the phrase, I didn't. It's stupidity that causes problems. Maybe you were being stupid, and someone was trying to correct that.
Your mercury is apparently afflicted. I suspect a third and eleventh house involvement but can't be sure of that - just guessing. But the good news is that this will pass quickly. Meantime lay low. 72 hours will be adequate. Thereafter, the animosities will vanish.
My therapist told me something that I should have known all along: I'm a mercurial person. I have highs; I have terrible lows; I react to each with my own methods. She's helping me to tweak those methods.
Find a different counselor who can actually help you.
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