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I'm a 20 something year old male and am afraid of women
Here's how I do things
- I never frequent establishments where I know women will be present (cafes, malls, movie theatres, etc)
- Never go to clubs or parties
- Never commute to college during prime hours. Only in the evening, early morning or weekends
- One of the reasons I take online classes is to avoid women
- I never make eye contact with them, stick to looking at the ground
- I avoid them whenever possible. When I see a girl or a group of girls, I get out of dodge to the best of my ability
- I never apply for job positions where I know I'll be interacting with lots of women. If I do have to work with women, I avoid them and only speak to them briefly when I have to
- I wear hoodies so women can't see my face
I was made fun of and mocked by women relentlessly growing up. I am ugly, ethnic, short and scrawny. I have no self confidence as a young adult and I'm very socially awkward. This is where the fear of women comes from
For a full time career, I plan on working with computers so not a lot of physical interaction
Try toastmasters. And working out to give you endorphons and help with confidence.
Or some kind of therapy. What the OP is describing is not so much a preference as a pathology, and it's going to hold him back in life if he can't even interact with women in a general way.
Or some kind of therapy. What the OP is describing is not so much a preference as a pathology, and it's going to hold him back in life if he can't even interact with women in a general way.
Absolutely right.
OP -- do you have any counseling resources through your school? This is more than just a dating issue, it will affect your entire life and you should think about getting some ongoing, face-to-face personal support.
What if you go for your first real job interview and its an attractive woman asking the questions?
had the same issue, concentrate on their nostrils when you talk to them and try and make them laugh...but no rape or incest jokes ...go with the 'ol "dumb blonde" assortment, it won't matter what color their hair is as the blondes won't pick up on the connection anyway.
practise social interactions with less attractive women and work your way up.
Example:
Read stories to older women in nursing homes.
Volunteer or work at a hospital in an area with weight loss/gastric bypass stuff or cancer
Volunteer or work in a place where mentally challenged women are
Volunteer or work in a place where disabled women are.
BTW, pretty women poo and pee just like you and me and they have gas, too!
What do you think is going to happen? As an adult, you know that it's highly unlikely that an attractive woman is going to say anything disparaging to you while you're walking through the streets, right? This is an irrational fear and could probably be dealt with through therapy. It's not feasible or realistic to go through life avoiding women, so in order to have a good life, you need to get rid of your fear.
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...go with the 'ol "dumb blonde" assortment, it won't matter what color their hair is as the blondes won't pick up on the connection anyway.
I have a terrifying fear of attractive women
