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Now I'm one of the OldER folks here and I don't recall ever hearing those words from my parents. I was born in 1938 and both passed after 2000's. I was just hearing Sherman Alexie and he talked about this and is probably at most 50 or so.
He never heard this from his parents. Thinking about this I could probably question all my friends who are my age and they would say the same thing, they never heard it from their parents.
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I was born in 1952. I never heard it ever from my father, who passed in 1995. My mother suddenly started saying it about 2-3 years ago, when she was about 85. Now every time we talk on the phone that's how she ends the call. That, by the way, was one of my favorite songs back in the 60s when I was 12 or 13.
On telling someone you love them, I think about my sister who passed at 68 recently from a battle with MS...I started telling her I Love You when we were about to hang up from a phone call and she had a hard time saying it back to me...she'd say something like, "me too".
My parents did say it. I once told my grandmother (father's mother), "I love you" and her response was "Thank you."
My mother told me that my grandmother (mother's mother) that when my grandfather passed away, she said, "I never told him that I loved him." REALLY? In all the years you were married you NEVER told him? I didn't want to be like that. Now, I say to my husband, "Have I told you TODAY that I love you?" I also say it to my sibs, grandkids, step-kids, and even to a few friends. I usually end most of my phone conversations with it.
My parents did say it. I once told my grandmother (father's mother), "I love you" and her response was "Thank you."
My mother told me that my grandmother (mother's mother) that when my grandfather passed away, she said, "I never told him that I loved him." REALLY? In all the years you were married you NEVER told him? I didn't want to be like that. Now, I say to my husband, "Have I told you TODAY that I love you?" I also say it to my sibs, grandkids, step-kids, and even to a few friends. I usually end most of my phone conversations with it.
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Are you younger like 50's or so. You don't have to answer but just wondering.
Nope, never heard it from my parents or at least not at an age where I can remember.
My sister recently texted me something (she is 47) and ended it with "love you" and I almost fell off my chair. I guess times are changing.
i only say the LOVE word to my partner. Not to friends or anyone else. I also don't LOVE shoes or celebrities I have never even met. I think this word is overused.
I feel the opposite, oh-eve. I think that it's underused, and that there is no such thing is loving too much or cheapening the concept. You want it to stick and to really matter, mind your love languages. If you REALLY LOVE someone, just saying "I love you" should not ever be considered enough all on its own.
5 Love languages:
Words of Affirmation - Don't just tell me you love me, please tell me how and why, or what you love about me.
Physical Touch - Show you love me when you can't keep your hands off me, even friends who braid my hair or hold my hand.
Quality Time - Show you love me by spending time doing special things together. Arrange time to spend with me.
Gifts - Show you love me by giving me the perfect gift--not necessarily the costly one, but the one that shows how well you know me, or that you were thinking of me.
Acts of Service - Show you love me by doing things for me. A man I know loves to cook and play music for people that he loves. He is an "Acts of Service" kind of guy.
I tell so many people that I love them. And I do! There is no scarcity to my love. No limits. It's not a finite resource. I don't love my first son less because I gave birth to a second one. I don't love my boyfriend less because I love many of my friends, and even my former lovers. He knows this. Love isn't a trap, or a threat, or demand that we DO SOMETHING. It's just a very positive feeling of attachment for someone who is important in your life. I have loved people that I was not in love with, and I have loved people I didn't even like!
Now I'm one of the OldER folks here and I don't recall ever hearing those words from my parents.
Weird, I was just thinking about this. I never heard it from my parents. How can a parent not say those words?
It makes me sad.
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