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For example, some people are proud of being stubborn to the point of never admitting they are wrong, or someone might "brag" that they don't even know how to operate a washing machine or dishwasher.
In my own case, I am a senior and I don't care that I'm a dinosaur -- and in fact I am proud that in many ways I am stuck in the 20th century. For example, I am absolutely clueless about any of the newer (post-2000) social media and electronic gadgets, and I don't want a Smartphone. (I also bake from scratch, and I don't even own an electric mixer.) Most people think anyone who doesn't take advantage of texting, Twitter, Smartphones, etc. are just set in their ways and refuse to adjust/adapt to the 21st century, but I am proud that I refuse to adapt, or at least as much as I am able to get away with it..
So what "vices" or flaws do you have that you don't actually believe are vices or flaws?
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Probably the biggest most glaring one for me, is that I am a woman, and I'm not even slightly shameful about sex. I have been blessed with a glorious variety of wonderful lovers, people I'll never forget, and many who remain dear friends. I've had great experiences. Some of the actually sexual kind, others when one gets into BDSM that everybody assumes are all about sex, but they are not. Much closer to something like massage.
Not only does it sound like bragging when I talk too much about this, but there is in our culture this sort of disapproval that I'm not ashamed of it, or think it's proper to talk about at all. Like when a woman is sexual, she should be punished for that. All I can say is that when I did what society expected, I was not happy. When I've gone a route more authentic to my desires and happiness, I've found joy. I will never again live for what other people think I should be. In my community I have learned not to hate my own body, and I know few enough American women who can claim that. Funny thing about being naked around others, it really doesn't take very long at all before it's no big deal for anybody there. I am comfortable in my skin. I am comfortable with my history. I am blessed with the amazing company of awesome people.
Plenty of people think I'd be far more respectable if I were a frumpy suburban housemarm who is desperately dieting and hates her body to the point she doesn't even enjoy sex anymore. Far more normal, in America. People who don't know me might name my flaws and my vices. People who do know me don't seem to judge me though. Or if they do, it is behind my back and I don't worry about that.
Oh. Another. I probably gossip too much. I get excited about people and their people-stories. I usually try to warn my close friends and loved ones, that I can keep a confidence, but I have to be asked to do so, because it's not my default mode. I don't gossip in a judgmental, nasty way. Just in a "here's something interesting" telling a story kind of way. *shrug*
Stubbornness, ability to get a reaction out of people, inscrutability of my personality to others, and trifecta ability to scare others with my anger, directly/disrespectfully tell off individuals no matter how powerful they are, and egg on mobs toward folks I despise
I am enjoying my stretch of time as a stay-at-home mom of two small children.
As an educated woman in my forties who has long held professional positions across several careers, there is a certain line of reasoning that says I'm supposed to feel stifled and unfulfilled by taking time to be home with my kids when they are babies, or resentful that I'm pausing my career, or isolated because I'm not in the working world with easy access to a cohort of peers. Only none of that is true of me or applies. I'm really enjoying being able to do this.
For example, some people are proud of being stubborn to the point of never admitting they are wrong, or someone might "brag" that they don't even know how to operate a washing machine or dishwasher.
In my own case, I am a senior and I don't care that I'm a dinosaur -- and in fact I am proud that in many ways I am stuck in the 20th century. For example, I am absolutely clueless about any of the newer (post-2000) social media and electronic gadgets, and I don't want a Smartphone. (I also bake from scratch, and I don't even own an electric mixer.) Most people think anyone who doesn't take advantage of texting, Twitter, Smartphones, etc. are just set in their ways and refuse to adjust/adapt to the 21st century, but I am proud that I refuse to adapt, or at least as much as I am able to get away with it..
So what "vices" or flaws do you have that you don't actually believe are vices or flaws?
So why do you "refuse" to adapt? I never understood people who "refuse" to adapt to technology that is put in place to make people's lives easier and more adaptable to your fellow man. Like people who refuse to use/get cell phones which is arguably the most important/worldly invention in the last 20 years. Are some people just so caught up in not accepting change or being "too proud to adapt"? I'm sure it was the same when they first invented house phones, TVs, the automobile, etc.
I am enjoying my stretch of time as a stay-at-home mom of two small children.
As an educated woman in my forties who has long held professional positions across several careers, there is a certain line of reasoning that says I'm supposed to feel stifled and unfulfilled by taking time to be home with my kids when they are babies, or resentful that I'm pausing my career, or isolated because I'm not in the working world with easy access to a cohort of peers. Only none of that is true of me or applies. I'm really enjoying being able to do this.
So why do you "refuse" to adapt? I never understood people who "refuse" to adapt to technology that is put in place to make people's lives easier and more adaptable to your fellow man. Like people who refuse to use/get cell phones which is arguably the most important/worldly invention in the last 20 years. Are some people just so caught up in not accepting change or being "too proud to adapt"? I'm sure it was the same when they first invented house phones, TVs, the automobile, etc.
You have to learn something new. The learning curve is a pain.
Either that, or they just plain Don't Want To. If whatever they're using works fine, then why do something new?
So why do you "refuse" to adapt? I never understood people who "refuse" to adapt to technology that is put in place to make people's lives easier and more adaptable to your fellow man. Like people who refuse to use/get cell phones which is arguably the most important/worldly invention in the last 20 years. Are some people just so caught up in not accepting change or being "too proud to adapt"? I'm sure it was the same when they first invented house phones, TVs, the automobile, etc.
Well, I mean, if you have a cellphone it means you can be reached at anytime. On the other hand, if you don't have a cellphone it means people need to acknowledge there will be huge stretches of time you won't even know they attempted to contact you. I guess for old people it's part of that ability to not always feel like they are available. Of course cellphones are good for navigating or emergencies and stuff. Also, what other stuff has been invented in the past 20 years? If internet is consider e, I'd say that's a lot more important than the invention of cellphones.
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