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So what is it with these types of individuals? Gender has nothing to do with this from my observations because i’v seen it many times on both sides. Usually we humans “settle” for someone that’s on our ranking of attractiveness, education, and health (slim fit body). I’v came across many friends of friends who are very narcissistic and shallow yet they are the completely opposite of the attributes they seek in a partner.
With social media taking over, I guess society becomes more shallow? Idk but one thing forsure is that i’v never seen a chubby chick with fit guy with abs, and i’v never seen a fat nerd guy with a model.
With social media taking over, I guess society becomes more shallow? Idk but one thing forsure is that i’v never seen a chubby chick with fit guy with abs, and i’v never seen a fat nerd guy with a model.
Luckily for the majority of us who fall in between those extremes we somehow manage to couple up.
I think people who fit this 'type' are subconsciously aware of their own inferiority, and are hoping for an external validation (the person who is out of their league) to prove to everyone that they are better than that. Alternatively, if they were to be with someone they perceive to be an inferior specimen, they believe others will perceive them to be similarly inferior. I have seen this manifested in both women and men I know personally.
Everyone gets to set their own bar, but not everyone gets their wishes fulfilled. Such is life.
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With social media taking over, I guess society becomes more shallow? Idk but one thing forsure is that i’v never seen a chubby chick with fit guy with abs, and i’v never seen a fat nerd guy with a model.
So what is it with these types of individuals? Gender has nothing to do with this from my observations because i’v seen it many times on both sides. Usually we humans “settle” for someone that’s on our ranking of attractiveness, education, and health (slim fit body). I’v came across many friends of friends who are very narcissistic and shallow yet they are the completely opposite of the attributes they seek in a partner.
With social media taking over, I guess society becomes more shallow? Idk but one thing forsure is that i’v never seen a chubby chick with fit guy with abs, and i’v never seen a fat nerd guy with a model.
Why does it matter? Some fit guys do like chubby women. You can’t tell other people who they should be attracted to. If they want to be unrealistic in their standards then that’s their business.
So what is it with these types of individuals? Gender has nothing to do with this from my observations because i’v seen it many times on both sides. Usually we humans “settle” for someone that’s on our ranking of attractiveness, education, and health (slim fit body). I’v came across many friends of friends who are very narcissistic and shallow yet they are the completely opposite of the attributes they seek in a partner.
With social media taking over, I guess society becomes more shallow? Idk but one thing forsure is that i’v never seen a chubby chick with fit guy with abs, and i’v never seen a fat nerd guy with a model.
How would you know what a guy's abs are like? Do you lift his shirt?
Alternatively, if they were to be with someone they perceive to be an inferior specimen, they believe others will perceive them to be similarly inferior. I have seen this manifested in both women and men I know personally.
Everyone gets to set their own bar, but not everyone gets their wishes fulfilled. Such is life.
Wow absolute beautiful description! It makes total sense.
As for the part I highlighted/quoted, unfortunately I think this is how a lot of friendships end aswell. For example I had this blonde Russian female friend throughout high school, then while I’m in college, she ended up being a model, payed and everything. Slowly over the years she stopped hanging out and never posted any of our hiking or hanging out pictures together.
Our mutual friends even say she abandoned them for the club type of scene. My point is that your quote about being around others will make them feel society is judging them based on how their friend/partner are perceived.
This leads me to my next theory, are social hierarchies/popularity rank all just shallow circles that try to only hangout with people on their level of attractiveness? And I don’t mean just high school but also college, in the work place, and every social setting you can think of. For example I never see slobs walking down rodeo drive in Beverly Hills nor ever see low gyne people at fancy restaurants.
Wow, I really had no idea the survival of a social species was this hard. A miracle that any humans reproduce at all. Somewhere some of them managed to loosen up, throw pre-conceived notions to the winds, and defy their fate.
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