Am I A Masochist?

[purehuman]

I think they're calling you a masochist because they can't get hold of some of your money.
They should really look up the word, as frugality does not equal masochism.....being responsible with ones finances does not equal masochism. Working, or using the word "work" in your correspondence does not equal masochism.

[Gohangr]

Originally Posted by Scrat335

I was having a discussion with my ex wife last night. We are not estranged from one another by any means because we still have our daughters and GKs in our lives. Anyway she has financial problems apparently and she was kind of venting at me about the situation.

I dared to bring up the subject of financial responsibility. I laid things out for her nice and simple about shoes worn once and put in a closet to rot, junk jewelry and other accessories in abundance and buying a house that I saw (and stated my opinion) was a money pit from the day she first walked through it. I was just trying to explain why she DID NOT need 80% of what she had.

She called me a "f@@@ing masochist" when it comes to life and living.

I have little in life currently in a material sense. An old truck, lots of tools, a collection of model tanks, a laptop, note book and enough cloths to maybe fill 2 suitcases all together. Some other nick nacks in boxes. If I don't need it, I don't want it therefore I don't have it. I have means to acquire just about anything any single individual male breathing can. A Mercedes? I can pay cash. A house? Not here, not now but where and when I want I can do that too.

Does this make me a masochist?

What she said didn't really irk me but both of my daughters have said something similar mainly along the lines of enjoying life more.

Is there something I could/should be doing differently?

Are there any others here that have been or are in a similar mindset as me?

I just don't feel I'm wrong or doing the wrong thing. I do feel that both my daughters have some kind of concerns for me along these lines too. I don't think it's that big a deal. I intend to leave this world as poor as the day I came into it.

If you are feeling happy with what you have congratulations, you have found the meaning of life. you probably love your job your family and your friends.
but you have to understand that your wife may not have the same expectations from life. maybe she wants a better life. just help her get it if you want