Why do I consider this attractive? (problems, people, everything)

[Tarkinson]

For the record, I am 33 and my wife is 44. One thing I really like is that she has some grey in her temples. I get that what is attractive is different, but personally I find her very beautiful and love her personality and everything about her. Though I especially think the grey she has is very attractive, which may seem odd. From a psychological standpoint, why is this?

[reneeh63]

You're generalizing all the other things you like about your wife to other (initially) neutral aspects of her appearance. If she had to get glasses at some point you'd probably grow to like them, and her in them, as well.

I'd be disturbed if you loved your wife so much and then dumped her because of a little gray.

[Parnassia]

Originally Posted by Tarkinson

For the record, I am 33 and my wife is 44. One thing I really like is that she has some grey in her temples. I get that what is attractive is different, but personally I find her very beautiful and love her personality and everything about her. Though I especially think the grey she has is very attractive, which may seem odd. From a psychological standpoint, why is this?

Grey hair isn't just a physical effect. It symbolizes time, a life lived, experience, wisdom, and something valuable worth keeping. Maybe time invested being with you. When you see it you see the time you've loved as well as the person.

[Mightyqueen801]

Who knows? Don't question love too deeply, just immerse yourself in it.

[Frostnip]

Grey at the temples draws attention to the eyes. It's also associated with graceful aging and wisdom. I imagine it looks great on her.

[Phil75230]

Originally Posted by Tarkinson

For the record, I am 33 and my wife is 44. One thing I really like is that she has some grey in her temples. I get that what is attractive is different, but personally I find her very beautiful and love her personality and everything about her. Though I especially think the grey she has is very attractive, which may seem odd. From a psychological standpoint, why is this?

At the end of the day, your taste are your tastes. It only becomes a problem when your tastes cause you to cause serious problems for other people, or even more to the point, when you use aesthetics as a basis for human worth.

[Gretchen963]

Originally Posted by Tarkinson

For the record, I am 33 and my wife is 44. One thing I really like is that she has some grey in her temples. I get that what is attractive is different, but personally I find her very beautiful and love her personality and everything about her. Though I especially think the grey she has is very attractive, which may seem odd. From a psychological standpoint, why is this?

She's confident enough within herself to know that some gray hairs don't detract from her outer beauty. A healthy self-esteem is a very attractive trait to many people.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Tarkinson

For the record, I am 33 and my wife is 44. One thing I really like is that she has some grey in her temples. I get that what is attractive is different, but personally I find her very beautiful and love her personality and everything about her. Though I especially think the grey she has is very attractive, which may seem odd. From a psychological standpoint, why is this?

It's not odd. Certain patterns of greying are considered attractive. It creates a bit of a dramatic look. Greying that occurs more evenly distributed throughout the hair isn't noteworthy in that way, but a striking pattern can highlight the hair and facial features. This is a known phenomenon.

[Vasily]

Emmylou Harris, 72 years old. 'Nuff said.

https://www.opry.com/artist/emmylou-harris

[Johnhw2]

Only thing I found odd was you asking about it.