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I guess my issue is that I feel there is a real objection to a negative anything, called for, well thought out, etc. As if it is a social faux paux to be critical at all. As if "not going along with the crowd" is rude. As if, if you can't say anything nice, don't say it at all. There is no respect for my right to have a negative view.
I do think it is best to reserve criticism in social situations. But I encounter criticism in Amazon reviews, FB posts, political discussions, discussions about the pandemic, and many other subjects. I do not encounter reluctance to be critical. I personally do refrain from publicly criticizing my friends and relatives, however. There is no need for that.
No I have high standards and it seems.. a lot of people do not. However, I know there are a lot of people paid to give positive amazon or yelp reviews.
I love the way your entire post is as if looking at the negatives is a bad thing.
Your clearly one of those people who gets personally offended when people state the truth about something and don't bend over backwards to be positive.
I read the negative reviews. There are two general types: Those not specific to the intact normally delivered product itself (I ignore these) and those that address specific issues with the product itself. I look specifically for repeat complaints addressing the same problem with the product.
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This is exactly what I do when I review all on-line reviews. The reviewer has to have legit experience with the product and not be just an outlier with a unique/weird situation. And even then, I wouldn't discount that THAT person had THAT experience...just that it's not necessarily generalizable.
Like with restaurant reviews, I often see a bunch of 0- or 1-star reviews where the reviewer was there on Mothers Day or Valentines Day, or was a party of 20. Those aren't helpful to me unless I'm visiting under the same circumstances. So no....I don't think the reviewer is wrong or lying, it's just not useful to me so I ignore it. If those reviewers somehow catch feelings like the OP, not my problem.
So much of the time if I go to yelp or amazon, I will see things (businesses or books) given good reviews. But they are not good. It has become today almost rude to criticize even if the service / book is subpar. I can't understand that. To get a bad review you really have to be almost negligent.
I find this in my life too. Everyone just wants to pretend that everything is great. But if you speak up and say, um, no it isn't, somehow you are a jerk.
I feel like this kind of attitude is going to destroy us as a society. It is like it pushes standards down.
If someone criticizes people for their opinion or what they like, I guess they kind of are a jerk?
I understand making jokes and fun over the shortcomings of things in life, but the fact that I don't like something, doesn't mean other people don't.
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