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will be moving soon. Met the new neighbor a few times. My s.o. mentioned to me the the neighbor never acknowledges them.
Example, : neighbor saw us in the yard, checking out our new place. Came over, shook hands with me, chatted with me, and never mentioned or looked at my s.o.
I did not realize that had taken place. S.o. says this is like the third time that has occurred?
what gives?
Thanks
Not enough information and you are being evasive about your respective genders. Are you a man or a woman? Is your s.o. a man or a woman?
Is your s.o. a shy or quiet, non-assertive person that doesn't step forward and speak up first of his/her own accord in social encounters? Does s.o. make eye contact easily when in public social occasions?
I realize this is psychology and I maybe going off the "edge" when I say-
Some folks give off a vibe that is unwelcoming. Yes even the way a persons stature is, can be uninviting. Not that you want to be overzealous.
Human behavior is a fascinating observable habit I mull around in. Its part of the Hospitality industry- How to approach- "read" the room. I cannot fathom the times my "mary sunshine" demeanor has been a curse to the perceptive "other". Some folks run for the hills! And rightly so I suppose. Too much cheerfulness when the person just wants solice and hand me the bill you overly energized bunny!
So maybe take a step back and observe in a different light ...maybe one or the other is not receptive to that level of open introduction.
When you introduced yourself, you should have introduced your s.o. at the same time. I'm xxx and this is my wife/husband/partner/GF/BFF, xxx. S.O. should say hello at that point and you shake his hand. Now you properly introduced yourself.
I side with those who are guessing that the neighbor probably figured your SO was just some random friend or relative or even a hired professional (realtor, inspector, repair person) who happened to be standing next to you if you didn't bother to introduce them. Heck, you should've introduced them even it were just some random semi-stranger...
In some cultures, it's extremely rude to show attention to a married woman, especially right in front of the husband. Is it possible the neighbor is from a different culture?
Only if the neighbor is fresh off the boat from somewhere where talking to women is forbidden. if he lives here, works here, and has human interaction, he must have gotten over that.
I believe some people just don't "see" a person. This happens to me occasionally, very rarely, but it happens. Even when I have addressed the person directly, he (always he) would respond, to my question, looking at someone standing next to me, also white, as if she asked the question. Always the man is white. Well we live in a majority white town, so that cannot be helped. I am brown skinned and I have chalked it up to that. Not as racism, but something I am not sure what it is. Maybe he feels intimidated by my overbearingly attractive brown godessness. I don't know. And it is annoying and disturbing when you experience it.
I'd suspect cultural or even regional US differences. Just move from one area where you have roots and have lived a long time to another very different part of the country. You'll see all sorts of "weird" responses, which are not really weird after all, just differences in approach. It gets interesting.
i agree introduction could have been made. the SO could have also just introduced herself.
Agree. I guess manners are a thing of the past!
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