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You guys are giving me some great reading material that I am going to check out. I am happy that I now know it is a problem & I want to make some changes. Wish me luck!
You know, whether we admit it or not, I think just about every CD poster is an attention junkie. After all, when you come to the site, what's the first thing one typically does? We say, "Oh, look, I got several reputation comments!" And then we go to that page to see what nice things all the fellow posters said about us. Heck, the validation is what's so addictive about this.
Really couldn't care actually. I mean it's nice people leave comments, but this is the first forum I've belonged to that does that and it was never the reason I joined. Most of the forums I belong to deal with motor racing and cars and since my interests are a bit narrow for the general public, it was a great way to talk with like minded people and debate topics I wouldn't otherwise talk about in daily life. Basically it's an outlet for me to express ideas and debate topics. Not to find approval from random people I don't know.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I am reading a book called 'Approval Addiction'. I have always had the need to please everyone. I have always cared about what others think about me. It is important to me for people to like me. I hate conflict and have actually ended my marriages by giving them everything just to keep things on a friendly level & to avoid the battle.
I am finally realizing there is an underlying root to this & am working on figuring it out. I just wondered if any of you find yourselves in this position?
Oh good heavens no. I'm 50 now and that's been over for a good 20 years. I don't give a fatratsass whatthehell anyone thinks of me anymore. That's their problem. I sometimes think "Maxine" was named after me.
Unfortunately, I spent most of my years on this planet this way. I realized my efforts were futile. A, "damned if I do, damned if I don't" existence. So...
(Well) it's alright now, I've learned my lesson well...Can't please everyone, you've got to please yourself.
I am reading a book called 'Approval Addiction'. I have always had the need to please everyone. I have always cared about what others think about me. It is important to me for people to like me. I hate conflict and have actually ended my marriages by giving them everything just to keep things on a friendly level & to avoid the battle.
I am finally realizing there is an underlying root to this & am working on figuring it out. I just wondered if any of you find yourselves in this position?
Yes, so please feed my addiction by repping this post
What my son and God thinks of me matters. No one has to like me, I do not have to like them - but there are many people I do not like, and the respect and same for them toward me. I do my best when I can, I do what I know and feel is right as much as humanly possible, I love, I like, I dislike like much the rest of the human race does -. . . but I do not hate. As Marilyn Monroe once said, "If you cannot accept me at my worst, you do not deserve me at my best."
I thrive on other people's disapproval of me. In this crazy world, it restores faith in my own sanity when so many crazies out there disapprove.
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