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My husband brags about himself all the time. I think I know him well enough to say that it's not a mask for insecurity or a cover-up mechanism. And he isn't narcissistic at all either, quite the opposite in fact.
I am still trying to figure him out, to be honest. I was raised to believe that modesty and humility were good traits so I call him to the carpet on his bravado all the time. He's the son of a preacher so I sometimes remind him that "the meek shall inherit the earth". He just laughs and will quote some other scripture(s) that supports his position. LOL
He believes that other people believe what you tell them about yourself. If you think you are weak other people will see you as weak also. He sees no value in downplaying his strengths or why he should hide his awesomeness in the shadows.
I gotta say, it has served him well in life. He is a self-made man who has accomplished a lot and built a great life for himself. It was done by not settling for being second best. He makes sure that he's the very best at what he does and is being known and compensated for being the best.
Do you have any friends/relatives that love to brag about themselves? Are these people insecure and trying to mask that insecurity or do they really think they are the smartest/most successful/most talented/most beautiful person on earth?
yes, my brother in law does this.
Constantly big-noting himself (half of which are made up).
He is insecure, and it kind of goes into overdrive the more he is uncomfortable around people.
Without reading other posts....it seems more to me they're looking for reassurance to cover whats really insecuity. Ppl who are confident and self assured don't need to constantly validate their accomplishments.
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Originally Posted by lisalan
Do you have any friends/relatives that love to brag about themselves? Are these people insecure and trying to mask that insecurity or do they really think they are the smartest/most successful/most talented/most beautiful person on earth?
Is it bragging or is she just displaying some pride. I think sometimes people get excited over something they've done or accomplished and might expect others will be just as enthusiastic. Perhaps she's just proud and thinks everyone around her is equally as proud of her accomplishments? Hard to say without being there and being able to put it into context.
Do you have any friends/relatives that love to brag about themselves? Are these people insecure and trying to mask that insecurity or do they really think they are the smartest/most successful/most talented/most beautiful person on earth?
I love your title.
Regarding security and self-esteem:
I believe that if you need more of it, you don't have. If you have it, you don't need it.
So even people who don't brag but need to feel more secure or need more self-esteem don't actually have it at all. They just have better manners so they don't reveal themselves. It usually when you get to know them that they start telling you they are not very secure.
The ones that brag are the ones letting you know they don't have it. So you can pick them out easily.
I have a friend who thinks she is always right and is an expert on everything. When she makes mistakes or wrongs someone and can't deny it, she either blames others or says something along the lines of "well, everyone makes mistakes, even me I guess!" Then immediately writes off or ignores any consequesnces. Is that part of what you're talking about? It's pretty darn unpleasant.
Do you have any friends/relatives that love to brag about themselves? Are these people insecure and trying to mask that insecurity or do they really think they are the smartest/most successful/most talented/most beautiful person on earth?
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Yes and yes.
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How can you say yes and yes? How does that make any sense? You think they are insecure and you think they think they are the best person in the world. Maybe you don't understand my post
Buddy's answer is not profound but makes sense.
Some insecure people try to mask that insecurity by trying to convince you they are the smartest/most successful/most talented/most beautiful person on earth.
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