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Ha! I think I definitely have an answer for this. Out of all the female friends I've had and do have (past and present), the one consistent similarity I see is that they all got married young, had kids, gave up whatever life they had or knew and dedicated all their time to their marriage and kids. That's not the issue. The issue is that they lost themselves. They gave up life as they knew it, albeit willingly but then when the kids were gone or they went through a divorce, they didn't know anything about themselves.
Now, fast forward to the friends I have not, I still do have a couple of "those" friends but, the other friends are like me. Very self assured, self confident, knowledgable not only about themselves but about people and the world. These are strong women who are very sure of themselves and know themselves very well. They have a ton of hobbies, they are married or in LTR's and not only do they have their own hobbies but shared hobbies with their SO's.
I am one of these women and even though I had been married at one time, I never did lose that sense of myself. I've always been very indpendent and have always had a wide range of hobbies that keep me busy. I just have someone to share with now and learn new hobbies. For example, I ride horses (I own and have usually had a horses), I have my motorcycle license and do know how to ride and do occasionally, I have no fear of a spontaneous road trip somewhere, not afraid to fly, not afraid of the "unknown", etc etc...
A lot of women fear independence though. If they didn't fear it, they'd have tons of hobbies. When women who lack the independence hear about my life they are usually fascinated and often say things like, "Oh, I could never do that" or "don't you get scared?" etc...
I agree with Mathguy. Some hobbies especially those women do are not recognized as hobbies. Goes back to once there are kids, women dont have much time for more active hobbies because they are generally the major caretaker of the children and home and often hold down a job as well.
Like Andrea, I also consider my horses and riding a hobbie, but when the kids were young I didnt have time to spend going on rides which often required travel or just the upkeep of horses but I could still sit and do sewing/quilting/drawing/reading while caring for the kids. Once the kids grew up, I had more time for other hobbies.
It does seem that a lot of men have a rather narrow view of what hobbies are. Many don't consider scrapbooking, knitting, or reading to be hobbies, but consider videogames, poker, or even watching football games as legitimate hobbies.
I do think it's funny that "sports" (i.e. watching TV) is a huge hobby for men, but if a woman said her hobby is "watching tv", people would roll their eyes.
I don't think women have fewer hobbies, either. BTW, can sex be a hobby?
Only until you go pro...
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