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Hi. I had a girl today tell me that one of the key things she looks at when considering a guy is what type of relationship he has with his mother. I never had heard it before, but I guess it makes alot of sense. Has anybody else heard this used as a factor? Maybe the same can be applied to a girl and her father?
Hi. I had a girl today tell me that one of the key things she looks at when considering a guy is what type of relationship he has with his mother. I never had heard it before, but I guess it makes alot of sense. Has anybody else heard this used as a factor? Maybe the same can be applied to a girl and her father?
In some theories yes indeed this is true. Yet not all.
I loved my father very much and if a man I'm dating has his good traits like him then it is all good for me!
Many girls or rather ladies want to see how a guy treats his mother and how they get along.
This is future information on how you will treat her.
I think it's true. I also think men sometimes want to date something that is similar to their mother. Not always but I have an example.
My ex's father died when he was very young. His mother as a result "lost it" for a while. When he was about 7 she remarried the man he refers to as "dad", since he never knew his real father. His father essentially came in and "saved" his mother and made their family all better. While we where dating I almost felt like he wished I had it "less" together. I come from a great nuclear family. We broke up and now he's dating a single 23 year old divorcee mother of a 2 year old and I feel that he is THRIVING in this relationship because he came in and "saved" her the way his father saved his mother.
Hi. I had a girl today tell me that one of the key things she looks at when considering a guy is what type of relationship he has with his mother. I never had heard it before, but I guess it makes alot of sense. Has anybody else heard this used as a factor? Maybe the same can be applied to a girl and her father?
Yes, this is sage advice. For instance, men with difficult relationships with their mothers can sometimes make difficult partners. By the same token, men who are mama's boys don't make emotionally healthy partners you can count on either.
What you really want to watch for is, how does the man TREAT his mother? (Even if she is a basket case or otherwise emotionally unhealthy). Men who treat their mothers poorly will usually treat their wives the same way in the long run. A man who can have compassion for his mother, even when she has made his life hard is a good man. A man who really loves and respects his mother is usually a real keeper
What you really want to watch for is, how does the man TREAT his mother? (Even if she is a basket case or otherwise emotionally unhealthy). Men who treat their mothers poorly will usually treat their wives the same way in the long run. A man who can have compassion for his mother, even when she has made his life hard is a good man. A man who really loves and respects his mother is usually a real keeper
This is excellent advice, and that's what I too look for in a man. But this extends to his entire family as well -- I see how close he is to them and if he values them in his life. I'm not enamored with the idea of ending up with someone who's estranged to his family or who doesn't want to spend time with any of them.
My exH didn't value his family at all and wanted to part ways forever, with the exception of his brother. It should not have came as a shock when he expected that after we got married that I'd never see my parents again, but it did (we have a good relationship).
When someone projects their own unhealthy issues with their family onto your situation or starts reading things into the situation that aren't there, that's always a bad sign.
This is excellent advice, and that's what I too look for in a man. But this extends to his entire family as well -- I see how close he is to them and if he values them in his life. I'm not enamored with the idea of ending up with someone who's estranged to his family or who doesn't want to spend time with any of them.
My exH didn't value his family at all and wanted to part ways forever, with the exception of his brother. It should not have came as a shock when he expected that after we got married that I'd never see my parents again, but it did (we have a good relationship).
When someone projects their own unhealthy issues with their family onto your situation or starts reading things into the situation that aren't there, that's always a bad sign.
I disagree.
Life is complex, and not so cut and dry. A man could illtreat his SO when having good familial relationships. I think that nobody should spend time with others whom they don't get on with, nor feel content around.
If I met a woman, and she didn't get on with her family, there must be a reason. I would vet the reason, and judge on that basis.
I think it's true. I also think men sometimes want to date something that is similar to their mother. Not always but I have an example.
My ex's father died when he was very young. His mother as a result "lost it" for a while. When he was about 7 she remarried the man he refers to as "dad", since he never knew his real father. His father essentially came in and "saved" his mother and made their family all better. While we where dating I almost felt like he wished I had it "less" together. I come from a great nuclear family. We broke up and now he's dating a single 23 year old divorcee mother of a 2 year old and I feel that he is THRIVING in this relationship because he came in and "saved" her the way his father saved his mother.
Just my 2 cents. Take it or leave it.
Or maybe he just didn't feel that connection with you and now he's found it with his current. I'm a single divorcee mother of a 4 year old and my life is about as normal as any other person my age - so being a divorced mom doesn't make you "not have your **** together." Remember, being judgmental gets you nothing but misery.
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