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Old 05-01-2012, 12:24 PM
 
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How many people here actually call or imply a person to be ugly to their face in a non joking, non-insulting matter of factly manner?

I was thinking about this today because I got a Facebook post from an old college friend. Back in the day, my friends all used to joke around and call themselves ugly. I never partook, but most of the time it seemed like it was just for fun.

A few times in adult life, someone has implied I was unattractive or implied that they were much better looking than me. And I got to thinking this...

Some people have the rationale that looks are like height. You are either tall or short. If you call a 5'2" guy short, it's not really an insult, he's short. And correspondingly, you are either good looking or ugly. Therefore, calling a person ugly isn't an insult per se because that person is just ugly and they probably know and accept it.

That's just a theory. It's hard for me to believe that a lot of people think like that, but I know some do.

Why else would you call a friend or coworker or other person you know ugly to their face or imply they were unattractive? For those that wouldn't, why do you think people do it?

C'mon, be honest. Come clean.
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:25 PM
 
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Because they're ugly?
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:27 PM
 
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Why else would you call a friend or coworker or other person you know ugly to their face or imply they were unattractive? For those that wouldn't, why do you think people do it?
Why the hell would anybody in his right mind do that? And why the hell would anybody in his right mind (well, that's obviously questionable) post this lunacy?! What is going on in this country?!
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:33 PM
 
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Why the hell would anybody in his right mind do that? And why the hell would anybody in his right mind (well, that's obviously questionable) post this lunacy?! What is going on in this country?!
Not too many people would flat out sincerely call another person ugly to their face, but a lot of people would without hesitation in casual conversation imply or say straight out that they are better looking than another person or imply that person is unattractive. It's happened to me and I've seen it happen lots.
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:34 PM
 
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Why would you call somebody good looking? Why would you call somebody fat? Why would call somebody skinny?
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:35 PM
 
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Not too many people would flat out sincerely call another person ugly to their face, but a lot of people would without hesitation in casual conversation imply or say straight out that they are better looking than another person or imply that person is unattractive. It's happened to me and I've seen it happen lots.
And what would the purpose of that be?
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:37 PM
 
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Most people are really not ugly. Unattractive perhaps, but not downright ugly. I can't remember when was the last time I thought someone was ugly.
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:39 PM
 
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Why would you call somebody good looking? Why would you call somebody fat? Why would call somebody skinny?
You would call someone ugly just the same as you would call someone good looking?

Just think that they are, that they know it, and they probably accept and would laugh with you about it over a beer or two?

What's your rationale?
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:41 PM
 
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And what would the purpose of that be?
You tell me. I asked the question.
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Old 05-01-2012, 12:43 PM
 
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Not too many people would flat out sincerely call another person ugly to their face, but a lot of people would without hesitation in casual conversation imply or say straight out that they are better looking than another person or imply that person is unattractive. It's happened to me and I've seen it happen lots.
Because there will always be rude, insecure, hateful people in the world.

If your ugly, good looking, short, tall, fat, skinny, poor, rich, drive a used car, drive a new car, own the nicest house on the block, own the poorest house on the block, etc these people will always have something negative to say to put you down to make themselves happy.
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