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A year and a half ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me and at the time, I really thought it was because of religion and family (we're from very different religious backgrounds), the tiny age difference probably had some to do with it. I was devestated for a long time but I'm 100% over it now.
Anyway, I know this is trying to dig up something that's long buried and dead, but I was just wondering and curious. It doesn't really affect me now, I was just wondering. He's been dating someone for at least 8 months now, she's probably closer to his age than I am, but in terms of religion she also comes from a very different background than him. Eventually I think he would only marry someone from his country and same religion as him because it's something that's extremely important to him. But why...why are they still going strong after so long...while him and I only lasted 6 months when we were actually very happy and in love??? I don't get it! Months after the breakup he had told me how sorry he was because he truly did love me and how I was his first in so many ways, but that he HAD to break up with me....yet he's been dating this girl for so long now. I know it doesn't matter now, I just want to know what's going on in his head.
By the way, this probably isn't important but he's been, in a way, cheating on her with me by trying to seduce me and getting me to try some [indecent] things with him, yet he claims to love her. What the heck is wrong with these men?
I dunno, but six months is not long enough to be in love, and eight months is not a long time to be in a relationship. I suspect that you are a youngin' for making such observations.
You stated that you were his first in more ways than one. Perhaps he wants to explore the candy store before he settles on particular item?
I get the feeling that you are trying to rationalize his behavior and seeking conformation that your continued involvement with him may be justified.
A year and a half ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me and at the time, I really thought it was because of religion and family (we're from very different religious backgrounds), the tiny age difference probably had some to do with it. I was devestated for a long time but I'm 100% over it now.
Anyway, I know this is trying to dig up something that's long buried and dead, but I was just wondering and curious. It doesn't really affect me now, I was just wondering. He's been dating someone for at least 8 months now, she's probably closer to his age than I am, but in terms of religion she also comes from a very different background than him. Eventually I think he would only marry someone from his country and same religion as him because it's something that's extremely important to him. But why...why are they still going strong after so long...while him and I only lasted 6 months when we were actually very happy and in love??? I don't get it! Months after the breakup he had told me how sorry he was because he truly did love me and how I was his first in so many ways, but that he HAD to break up with me....yet he's been dating this girl for so long now. I know it doesn't matter now, I just want to know what's going on in his head.
By the way, this probably isn't important but he's been, in a way, cheating on her with me by trying to seduce me and getting me to try some [indecent] things with him, yet he claims to love her. What the heck is wrong with these men?
You have no idea what a bullet you dodged by having this man break up with you!
You may have felt you were in love with him but he was definitely not in love with you. Here's the truth, when a man really loves a woman wild horses can't drag him away from her. The religion thing was a convenient excuse. And you can take that to the bank.
WHY are you even having any communication with him right now at all??? He's a user and a player. Don't fall for his lines or waste a minute trying to be his friend unless you just want to be hurt and used.
A year and a half ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me and at the time, I really thought it was because of religion and family (we're from very different religious backgrounds), the tiny age difference probably had some to do with it. I was devestated for a long time but I'm 100% over it now.
Anyway, I know this is trying to dig up something that's long buried and dead, but I was just wondering and curious. It doesn't really affect me now, I was just wondering. He's been dating someone for at least 8 months now, she's probably closer to his age than I am, but in terms of religion she also comes from a very different background than him. Eventually I think he would only marry someone from his country and same religion as him because it's something that's extremely important to him. But why...why are they still going strong after so long...while him and I only lasted 6 months when we were actually very happy and in love??? I don't get it! Months after the breakup he had told me how sorry he was because he truly did love me and how I was his first in so many ways, but that he HAD to break up with me....yet he's been dating this girl for so long now. I know it doesn't matter now, I just want to know what's going on in his head.
By the way, this probably isn't important but he's been, in a way, cheating on her with me by trying to seduce me and getting me to try some [indecent] things with him, yet he claims to love her. What the heck is wrong with these men?
No i think your age was the issue. Sounds like he wants a gf his age, but a FWB on the side. It's better you move on.
You have no idea what a bullet you dodged by having this man break up with you!
You may have felt you were in love with him but he was definitely not in love with you. Here's the truth, when a man really loves a woman wild horses can't drag him away from her. The religion thing was a convenient excuse. And you can take that to the bank.
WHY are you even having any communication with him right now at all??? He's a user and a player. Don't fall for his lines or waste a minute trying to be his friend unless you just want to be hurt and used.
I agree! I think the religion thing was an excuse.
Why are you giving him any kind of satisfaction by even talking to him?
Can`t you see that he is playing games?
.But why...why are they still going strong after so long...while him and I only lasted 6 months when we were actually very happy and in love???
Months after the breakup he had told me how sorry he was because he truly did love me and how I was his first in so many ways, but that he HAD to break up with me
The very happy and in love is your perspective, not his.
I'll break the rest down for you, hes feeding you a load of crap hoping your weak enough not to see through it.
Looking at this from the outside, I can completely understand how you guys would see it as him wanting only sex from me. I agree that if a man was truly in love with a woman, he would move mountains and I think his religion and family were only a tiny part of it but ultimately, he just wasn't as into me as I was into him. The reason I still have contact with him is because we go to school together and we're on good terms. Yes I think he's a jerk for cheating on his girlfriend because even though I haven't given in yet, the fact that he has tried and wants to have sex with me makes him a cheater in my eyes. I don't think I'll be hurt though, I'm not into him anymore, like I said, I'm 100% over him.
Looking at this from the outside, I can completely understand how you guys would see it as him wanting only sex from me. I agree that if a man was truly in love with a woman, he would move mountains and I think his religion and family were only a tiny part of it but ultimately, he just wasn't as into me as I was into him. The reason I still have contact with him is because we go to school together and we're on good terms. Yes I think he's a jerk for cheating on his girlfriend because even though I haven't given in yet, the fact that he has tried and wants to have sex with me makes him a cheater in my eyes. I don't think I'll be hurt though, I'm not into him anymore, like I said, I'm 100% over him.
You haven't "given in to him YET"????
Please tell us you won't be so foolish as to give in to him at all!!
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